Anyone marching forward TTC but scared/still questioning the major life change parenthood is?

[Anonymous]

I feel this way a lot...you're not alone. Thank you for posting this so I know I'm not alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nah. I mean, women conceive under the most dire and stressful circumstances we can possibly imagine (I don't need to spell out some of those situations, I'm sure.)

The truth is, we don't have as much control over this as we might think. I really do believe that the acupunture and gulping of herbs and pills and such gives us not much beyond a feeling of control. It's just a matter of percentages. So give yourself a break and allow yourself to feel what you feel.

I have this ambivalence quite often myself. You're not alone, OP!

Well said.

I feel like I focus so much of my attention on getting pregnant that I tend to forget about the panic that sets in when I realize what getting pregnant REALLY means. The pricetag of daycare alone is enough to scare the crap out of me! You are definitely not alone.

[Anonymous]

After months and dollars of TTC I finally got pregnant. During the first few months after giving birth I was so sleep deprived I kept asking myself "what have I done?" or "what was I thinking?". Of course now I am very happy but even during the first few months you may be questioning yourself again Then you will look back and laugh.

[Anonymous]

ttc number two right now and i'm scared to death! even tho i'm in the thick of it with my 3 yr old DD. Of course I yearn for it, but it's natural to have that feeling of 'omg, am i really ready'....

ps yes there are sacrifices, but the love for a child is undescribable....

[Anonymous]

I feel like I'm afraid of everything. I'm afraid I'll get pregnant, I'm afraid I won't get pregnant. I'm afraid I'll leave the baby in a car. I'm afraid I'll forget to feed the baby, or feed it the wrong things. I'm afraid I'll have a child with a disability and that I will not be a good mother to because of that. I'm afraid that I won't be able to live in a neighborhood with good schools. I am single, and older, and I'm afraid she'll hate me for trying to conceive her without being married. I'm afraid she'll be permanently damaged by racism. (I am black) I'm afraid she'll be on drugs, she'll live on the street, that I will do something that will permanently damage this little life. Every disaster you can imagine, I've considered!

The fear of the unknown can be overwhelming sometimes. I don't know how my parents did it. And they were so, so young. The idea of being 21 and married and having a kid just seems crazy to me, though that's what everyone did in their generation (they are now in their mid-70s)

The whole process, from conception to child rearing to finally letting that child leave the nest, is an incredible leap of faith. It's an investment in the future that you can never take back. I do waver, a lot. Ultimately I try to tell myself that I believe this world will be better with this little life in it. And that people with fewer resources than I have, have raised children and thrived.

So, from my perspective, it's okay to be questioning. I hope that it's natural.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Wow I am so glad that I posted this post. Thank you all.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I have these feelings as well OP. Wish I had more tie but I'm 38.