Anyone Pregnant Again and have a Little One Under One Year?

[Anonymous]

OP again. Do any of you live in Rockville? I need an OB recommendation. I just called to make an appt and my ob moved out of state, the others are only gyn. Anywhere in Rockville, Bethesda, Gburg is great. I am calling a few to see if they have openings.

[Anonymous]

Here's a different perspective - I had #2 3 years after #1. I thought 3 years was a good space but it's been really tough, but in a different way than were they closer. 3 year-olds are a handful - sure you aren't chasing them around all the time but they are willful and demanding. Also, they are potty training and I can't tell you how many times I had to help my dd in the bathroom while #1 was on my breast!
As for shortchanging #1, I think having them closer actually minimizes it in a sense - your child probably won't remember when they had you all to themself while my DD does and is resentful about having to share mom and dad. So, as in most things in life, there are pros and cons..

[Anonymous]

I sent out a similar note a few months ago when I found out I was pregnant with #2 when my daughter was 18 months. We were "trying," but once it happened, I was taken aback by how unexcited I was. Same feelings of worrying about shortchanging my older one, not to mention myself. Interestingly, a lot of people wrote back that you have the same emotions no matter what the age difference is, and I've seen/heard that anecdotadly with friends and acquaintances. I still have to justify to myself why we were trying at that point, but I have to rationalize that most likely I would be having the same feelings if there was another six months or year between the two. Hang in there. People keep telling me that it will all work out, but it supposedly it does...

[Anonymous]

I have a 15 month old and I am about 20 pregnant - so as many others not as close as you will be - but I actually wanted to be closer - it just didn't work out that way! Even though that is the case, I still get a little worried about not having enough time with DS and how I am going to change his work soon with twin sisters! So just wanted you to know that others have guilt about decreasing the time and attention to their firts even with a larger span.

Good luck and keep in mind it is leiley that 50-90% of what you are feeling comes from the raging hormones in your body!