Neighbor Asked Our Nanny to Do Her a Favor. WWYD?

[Anonymous]

OP you sound like a real bitch! If you felt so comfortable scolding your nanny (a grown woman) why not the same for your neighbor? I bet working for you is dreadful. You want to be a slave master instead of a boss!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you sound like a real bitch! If you felt so comfortable scolding your nanny (a grown woman) why not the same for your neighbor? I bet working for you is dreadful. You want to be a slave master instead of a boss!

agreed. why the fuck is this any of your business? I do favors for neighbors all the time.

[Anonymous]

The right thing for you to do OP is to tell the nanny that since it's YOUR neighbor that needs help that you would feel better about doing it yourself. Then tell your neighbor that you'd be happy to do it instead of your nanny because you don't want to put her out.

That way you get the point across to the neighbor that asking your nanny for help isn't cool, your nanny isn't put out, and the bird gets fed.

Sound good?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you sound like a real bitch! If you felt so comfortable scolding your nanny (a grown woman) why not the same for your neighbor? I bet working for you is dreadful. You want to be a slave master instead of a boss!

People really need to learn to give others the benefit of the doubt. Maybe the nanny reported this to OP by saying that she would have to take the kids over to the neighbor's house. Maybe nanny has her own time commitments and can't come earlier or stay later. I'm not suggesting it's wrong to suggest the nanny could do it before or after, but why not start from the premise that OP has a legitimate question? Why jump to the conclusion not only that OP is not asking a legitimate question, but also that she is a bitch and a slave driver?

As for you, PP, the same knee jerk reaction you display, when applied to your own post, would make people assume that you are a foul mouthed, judgmental, mean spirited bitch yourself. I'm not saying you are. I'm saying you're someone who should think for a moment before hitting that submit button.

[Anonymous]

How to feed a bird:

Step 1. Retrieve bowl
Step 2. Lift box of bird food.
Step 3. Pour.
Step 4. Replace bowl
Step 5. Retrieve water container.
Step 6. (This is the long one) go to kitchen
STep 7. Fill
Step 8. (also unreasonably long) go back to birdcage.
Step 9. Replace water container.
Step 10. Close cage.

Wow, I'm exhausted!

[Anonymous]

I have to say that I was really put off by the OP saying that she had a "talk" with her nanny about asking her first about things like this.

A normal person would have said to her nanny that she's sorry the neighbor put her in that position and she would be happy to feed the bird since since it's her neighbor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The right thing for you to do OP is to tell the nanny that since it's YOUR neighbor that needs help that you would feel better about doing it yourself. Then tell your neighbor that you'd be happy to do it instead of your nanny because you don't want to put her out.

That way you get the point across to the neighbor that asking your nanny for help isn't cool, your nanny isn't put out, and the bird gets fed.

Sound good?

Yes, this sounds good, gracious and neighborly. Maybe OP should be asking herself why her neighbor didn't feel comfortable asking OP for HER help in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to say that I was really put off by the OP saying that she had a "talk" with her nanny about asking her first about things like this.

A normal person would have said to her nanny that she's sorry the neighbor put her in that position and she would be happy to feed the bird since since it's her neighbor.

This. If the nanny came to OP saying she felt awkward, put out, then this is the right responce. If nanny wants to do it with the understanding that it shouldn't interfere with her normal work hours and responsibilities, then I don't see a problem. As others have said, why can't the nanny, who'll be getting paid for this, go in the am before coming to you, and stopping by on her way home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The right thing for you to do OP is to tell the nanny that since it's YOUR neighbor that needs help that you would feel better about doing it yourself. Then tell your neighbor that you'd be happy to do it instead of your nanny because you don't want to put her out.

That way you get the point across to the neighbor that asking your nanny for help isn't cool, your nanny isn't put out, and the bird gets fed.

Sound good?

Yes, this sounds good, gracious and neighborly. Maybe OP should be asking herself why her neighbor didn't feel comfortable asking OP for HER help in the first place.

This is a good response (until the last sentence) I don't understand the snark in the responses here. But if it is a favor i.e., not paid, then this is the way to go, and if Nanny is not being paid, the neighbor is really crossing a line here. if Nanny is beign paid then the Nanny needs to do it on her own time.

[Anonymous]

She said the neighbor offered to paY. What I dont understand is why does she need to ask you. Your nanny can feed the bird before or afterwork. I'm glad I don't work for you.

[Anonymous]

Why can't the nanny do it during the day with the kids? Kids love to do things with animals and I am assuming that the nanny does other things with the kids during the day - go to the park, walk around the block, play outside, etc. Do you really script your nanny's day for her so there is no flexibility? Are your kids allergic to sunlight and must stay inside? Is your neighbor's house booby-trapped?

If you were home with your kids and you were doing to do a favor for your neighbor, you would probably bring your kids along since you say they are too young to be left alone.

I don't see a problem here. If the nanny doesn't mind, why should you? If the nanny doesn't want to do it, she is an adult and should say no. Even if she gets paid a pittance to do this and is therefore getting "double" paid for the few minutes it takes, give her a break. Its not that big a deal.

[Anonymous]

You people are going wild for no reason. The nanny told the OP and said she felt put on the spot. It sounds like the OP wants to protect her nanny. OP, I would tell the nanny she is free to do it before or after work if she would like or that you will do it for the neighbor if she would rather not do it.

[Anonymous]

wow. the posts have gotten progressively meaner. I don't think the OP is being a bitch. She is just asking for advice. OP, have your nanny do it before or after work with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you sound awfully territorial

I imagine the nanny will do this when she is off the clock with you and, therefore, it is none of your effing business what she does for the neighbor. Note to remember: You do not own your nanny; slavery was done away with over 100 yrs. ago in this country. What business is it of yours if the nanny picks up a few extra dollars by feeding and changing paper in cage for neighbor's bird?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The right thing for you to do OP is to tell the nanny that since it's YOUR neighbor that needs help that you would feel better about doing it yourself. Then tell your neighbor that you'd be happy to do it instead of your nanny because you don't want to put her out.

That way you get the point across to the neighbor that asking your nanny for help isn't cool, your nanny isn't put out, and the bird gets fed.

Sound good?

Yes, this sounds good, gracious and neighborly. Maybe OP should be asking herself why her neighbor didn't feel comfortable asking OP for HER help in the first place.

I was wondering thus too. I've helped ou my neighbors with things like this and they have done more than that for us. If OP is friendly enough with the neighbor that the kids play together, it seems weird that she wouldn't have just asked OP to do her a favor. Hmm...