S/O Guess I'm fat now

[Anonymous]

Wow, you ran into a super angry guy! He wasn't necessarily angry at you but angry at lots of things - probably at life in general. My DH is a sorta angry guy (but would never do something like that!) and he's trying to get into yoga/meditation to calm himself down. Not healthy.

You handled it perfectly well. The guy was dying for a confrontation so he could take some of his anger out at you. As for the fat thing... whatever. You could be a walking stick and he still would have said that. He did it because he knew it was an awful thing to say and he reveled in the idea. Don't let him win.

I was about 7 months post partum when my sweet elderly neighbor asked if I was expecting another. I didn't want her to feel bad so I told her "naw, it's just a cake baby" and laughed. It took me a year to get pulled back together. I also had some construction guys ask me about my pregnancy, a couple of months after giving birth. Yes, I still had a tummy but that's not exactly what I wanted to hear.

I'm pregnant again and am heading towards whale-hood. I fully expect to hear several comments about my weight after the birth DC#2. They'll suck but I'll handle it with as much humor as I can muster.

[Anonymous]

Some people are just idiots!!! So sorry you had to deal with that!!

FWIW, I would try hard not to interpret the comment to be about your weight. It's just an obnoxious insult that someone picked -- just as easily could have been any other obnoxious word. Remind yourself he's an a$$hole and let it go.

[Anonymous]

Said a prayer for you - hugs - what a sad person to yell at a mom crossing the sidewalk with her kids. Said a prayer for him too. Keep your head high - you are raising up the next generation.

[Anonymous]

I agree with all the PPs that say the comment was coming from an angry man and it had nothing to do with you. I recently encountered super angry dude with severe road rage in the middle of a traffic jam. He pulled onto the shoulder to come right next to me, rolled down his window, told me to F- Off and that I needed to fix my F-ing face. I was so stunned I couldn't come up with anything witty to say and was traumatized for days by it. After some reflection, you have to realize that someone who can spew such terrible things at the drop of a hat has a lot of bad things going on in their lives and is probably much worse off than you. I'm sorry this guy upse you OP but don't let it affect you. You are doing the best you can. Be grateful you aren't that a-hole's wife...poor woman!

[Anonymous]

"I agree with all the PPs that say the comment was coming from an angry man and it had nothing to do with you."

Nooo, it was a wake up call for OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I agree with all the PPs that say the comment was coming from an angry man and it had nothing to do with you."

Nooo, it was a wake up call for OP.

So you're saying that we should all take heed when an angry, aggressive person behaves in a verbally abusive way? We should listen to him because he's offering us constructive and insightful criticism? Your post is insane.

[Anonymous]

It must suck to be him, really. To have the gall to yell at someone he doesn't know just because they are crossing the street?

What a sad angry life he must lead. Only consolation it's that it might be a short one for him if he keeps this up, that attitude is probably doing wonders for getting him to the grave on an accelerated schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So sorry that happened to you. I swear, almost 15 yrs. ago, some a#* called me a fat "piece of sh#*" and I still remember it. PS, I was about 115lbs at the time! (If only that were the case after 2 babies now.)
I love that these postings have been so positive and supportive...but it's upsetting to realize just how many of us have been on the receiving end of these nasty weight-based remarks. URGH!!
Be strong -- when your son looks up from his stroller, he sees his favorite woman in the world. So, who cares what some random in a car shouts.

This was a beautiful remark.

[Anonymous]

The scene: A beautiful Sunday summer morning. Me, 3 months postpartum w/ #2 and probably 40lbs overweight. I finally managed to wrench myself free from my baby and 2yo, and find the time to go for my first run since the baby was born. I'm heavy and huffing, but oh-so-proud of myself for getting out. And ten minutes in, some jackass on a bike passes me and says "You go, Kirstie Alley!" I was floored! I mean, I was 40lbs overweight, not 140! JACKASS!!!!

Hang in there OP. You had just worked out. That jerk probably sat on his ass all day. My daughter is now 2, I've still got 15lbs to go, but I ran the Cherry Blossom ten miler last month. It takes time.

[Anonymous]

It seems to me that these days 'fatass' has become a standard insult, kind of like 'asshole'. Regardless of the actual size of one's ass.

OP, pleas try not to take it too close to heart.