Did you marry significantly outside of your socio-economic class?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a European who married an American, so in terms of level of education, culture, and civilization there was a significant gap. It is hard sometimes, but I committed to my own personal "mission civilisatrice".
And I have actually even found myself learning things from the natives here. Their simplicity, their devotion to their work, and their child-like belief in their God, etc.
So a significant socio-economic gap can be a benefit and offer learning opportunities from an anthropological perspective. I suggest you focus on this, and try to enjoy spending time with the lower classes in their natural habitat.

Ladies, this post is a joke.

[Anonymous]

Ahhh - you are an ET who took on human form as a European.

from which galaxy?

Do you not have a god which you worship?

When 2012 comes around, will you and yours travel home in your mothership?

Anonymous wrote:I am a European who married an American, so in terms of level of education, culture, and civilization there was a significant gap. It is hard sometimes, but I committed to my own personal "mission civilisatrice".

And I have actually even found myself learning things from the natives here. Their simplicity, their devotion to their work, and their child-like belief in their God, etc.

So a significant socio-economic gap can be a benefit and offer learning opportunities from an anthropological perspective. I suggest you focus on this, and try to enjoy spending time with the lower classes in their natural habitat.

[Anonymous]

^^^ She and her crew won't have to wait until 2012, apparently it's all coming to an end on the 21st of this month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a European who married an American, so in terms of level of education, culture, and civilization there was a significant gap. It is hard sometimes, but I committed to my own personal "mission civilisatrice".
And I have actually even found myself learning things from the natives here. Their simplicity, their devotion to their work, and their child-like belief in their God, etc.
So a significant socio-economic gap can be a benefit and offer learning opportunities from an anthropological perspective. I suggest you focus on this, and try to enjoy spending time with the lower classes in their natural habitat.

100% agree and know what you are dealing with. I married a native american, and it is very hard to adjust to their savage ways and ritualistic human sacrifice.

[Anonymous]

Even minor SES background from going up and have marriage implications, mostly around attitudes towards money. Despite our generous cash flow and substantial net worth for our age, my DW is always concerned about our finances...a consequence of growing up in a household with solid office jobs but no college education and so a constant fear that everything could be lost at a moment's notice.

Reconciling divergent money attitudes is amongst the most difficult things to deal with in a marriage- I think you often need a third-party, depending on the situation, a financial advisor or a marriage therapist, to show the couple where the middle ground actually is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even minor SES background from going up and have marriage implications, mostly around attitudes towards money. Despite our generous cash flow and substantial net worth for our age, my DW is always concerned about our finances...a consequence of growing up in a household with solid office jobs but no college education and so a constant fear that everything could be lost at a moment's notice.
Reconciling divergent money attitudes is amongst the most difficult things to deal with in a marriage- I think you often need a third-party, depending on the situation, a financial advisor or a marriage therapist, to show the couple where the middle ground actually is.

A BFF's husband is like this. He's a self made millionaire and does some really weird things to save money. It gets on her nerves. They worked through it without counseling (he wouldn't go). They still have little tiffs, but she's learned to just let him be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a European who married an American, so in terms of level of education, culture, and civilization there was a significant gap. It is hard sometimes, but I committed to my own personal "mission civilisatrice".
And I have actually even found myself learning things from the natives here. Their simplicity, their devotion to their work, and their child-like belief in their God, etc.
So a significant socio-economic gap can be a benefit and offer learning opportunities from an anthropological perspective. I suggest you focus on this, and try to enjoy spending time with the lower classes in their natural habitat.

You have GOT to be kidding with this post!!!! So, you think that everyone is Europe is educated and smart???? And every American is dumb??? This has got to be one of the stupidest posts that I've ever read on DCUM.

I'm also European (German) and I have a slight inclination that you are German, too (hence the arrogance of your post) and let me enlighten you that there are tons of very uneducated Germans (as well as other Europeans) out there.

I feel sorry for your DH. He probably deserved better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You have GOT to be kidding with this post!!!! So, you think that everyone is Europe is educated and smart???? And every American is dumb??? This has got to be one of the stupidest posts that I've ever read on DCUM.

I'm also European (German) and I have a slight inclination that you are German, too (hence the arrogance of your post) and let me enlighten you that there are tons of very uneducated Germans (as well as other Europeans) out there.

I feel sorry for your DH. He probably deserved better.

I would agree with you, if the US could ever produce anything approaching the beauty, poetry, and spirituality of this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BQAKRw6mToA

Until that day, your arguments are simply not valid.

[Anonymous]

PP, thank you! Very very special

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a European who married an American, so in terms of level of education, culture, and civilization there was a significant gap. It is hard sometimes, but I committed to my own personal "mission civilisatrice".
And I have actually even found myself learning things from the natives here. Their simplicity, their devotion to their work, and their child-like belief in their God, etc.
So a significant socio-economic gap can be a benefit and offer learning opportunities from an anthropological perspective. I suggest you focus on this, and try to enjoy spending time with the lower classes in their natural habitat.

You have GOT to be kidding with this post!!!! So, you think that everyone is Europe is educated and smart???? And every American is dumb??? This has got to be one of the stupidest posts that I've ever read on DCUM.

I'm also European (German) and I have a slight inclination that you are German, too (hence the arrogance of your post) and let me enlighten you that there are tons of very uneducated Germans (as well as other Europeans) out there.

I feel sorry for your DH. He probably deserved better.

Yes, the author of this post WAS kidding. Do you have a sense of humor in Germany?

[Anonymous]

16:06:

This is priceless and brings back so many memories. Thank you for posting. Hilarious!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I would agree with you, if the US could ever produce anything approaching the beauty, poetry, and spirituality of this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BQAKRw6mToA

Until that day, your arguments are simply not valid.

My God that was beautiful! Thanks for posting.

[Anonymous]

DH grew up in a working class family (mine is upper middle class). Most of the time, it isn't an issue. Those kinds of things shouldn't be an issue, unless you are a jerk. The things do do come up however, are small things that my family does or values that he views as being snobby or uppity. For example, my grandmother making a big deal over handing down some of my great grandmother's silver to me. He doesn't get why it is important, but in his family, there is nothing of value to hand down. Or, me hating that his mother uses paper plates at Thanksgiving. I don't care enough to say anything, but she thinks I am a snob for using my china at holidays. So, big picture, these kinds of things are tiny, but they do tend to come up a lot. And I expect they will come up more when we have children and my family tries to impose its values on our kids, and his family tries to do the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have had some crazy stories happen though. When we got engaged and he bought me a 3 carat engagement ring, his mother asked if it was glass. When she found out that it was a diamond she went home, googled and approximate cost and decided if he had that type of money for a ring, she deserved some of it...

Well, honestly, without knowing more about his family, I would also argue that he should have spent a portion of that money on his mother, rather than on some ridiculously gaudy bauble for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a European who married an American, so in terms of level of education, culture, and civilization there was a significant gap. It is hard sometimes, but I committed to my own personal "mission civilisatrice".
And I have actually even found myself learning things from the natives here. Their simplicity, their devotion to their work, and their child-like belief in their God, etc.
So a significant socio-economic gap can be a benefit and offer learning opportunities from an anthropological perspective. I suggest you focus on this, and try to enjoy spending time with the lower classes in their natural habitat.

You have GOT to be kidding with this post!!!! So, you think that everyone is Europe is educated and smart???? And every American is dumb??? This has got to be one of the stupidest posts that I've ever read on DCUM.

I'm also European (German) and I have a slight inclination that you are German, too (hence the arrogance of your post) and let me enlighten you that there are tons of very uneducated Germans (as well as other Europeans) out there.

I feel sorry for your DH. He probably deserved better.

Eh, my guess is German, English or French.