Torn about whether to accept Mother's Day gift

[Anonymous]

Why not just gently raise the question with your husband and feel out his reaction? I can see going both ways on this one, but without knowing how much money is involved, it's hard to say. If you're talking about a $5,000 ring, then my reaction would be different than if you're talking about a $500 ring. Whatever you wind up doing, you are lucky to have such a thoughtful husband and two kids, so right there you've got a "win"!

[Anonymous]

I think it really depends on your husband. Mine would be cool with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think if you take it back you will discourage your DH from doing something like this again. Which would be a bad idea IMO.

I agree. If it were me and I gave my DH something he'd had his "eye" on for a long time and he rejected my gift, I would be personally offended and likely not go to a lot of trouble in the future. Accept the gift graciously and appreciate the love with which it is given.

[Anonymous]

I would keep it, but stress that for your next birthday/Christmas that your husband should spend only a nominal amount on gifts for you to make up for the expensive Mother's Day gift.

[Anonymous]

you should keep it. it might make you feel better to buy less for the next few months or don't go out to eat to make up for the expense. but the momento is worth more i believe/

[Anonymous]

You would still be using your own money - you have to eat on your upcoming work trip, right? So if you use your per diem on the ring you'll be paying out of pocket on your trip.

Maybe this was already stated, I just skimmed the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You would still be using your own money - you have to eat on your upcoming work trip, right? So if you use your per diem on the ring you'll be paying out of pocket on your trip.

Maybe this was already stated, I just skimmed the thread.

OP here. The trip has already been taken, so I wouldn't be swapping my future per diem for the gift. Money is already in the bank

I'm reluctant to name the price b/c for some ppl, it might be too much to pay for a piece of jewelry and others might think it's a very cheap item. It is less than $1k though, so nowhere near $5k. I did talk to DH about it and told him I felt very guilty. I don't think he would be hurt or it would stop him from getting me future gifts. He did urge me to accept and said that it's been a tough year for me.