Help needed dealing with stubborn, angry adolescent boy

[Anonymous]

You son doesn't have ADHD. He has the same disease that plagues most middle school boys. He has "AD"...Also known as Asshole Disease. It gets better when they leave for college. Sort of.

He doesn't need medication. And you don't need parenting classes. Remember when parents didn't rely on classes to parent their own kids. Just have confidence in your ability to set limits and enforce consequences.

And I wouldn't do any of the "how does that make you feel" nonsense either. You're raising a boy. If he doesn't follow the rules, you come down on him like a brick house. If he doesn't want to practice his instrument, then sell it. And don't waste any more money on lessons. If he's fighting with his sister, send him to his room. If he is throwing tantrums about going to Target, tell him you would be embarrassed to be seen in public with a 12 year old that acts like a 2 year old. Tell him that they don't make car seats big enough for him nor diapers absorbent enough for him. I sure as hell would not take a 12 year old anywhere after a tantrum. Hell, I wouldn't take a 2 year old out after a tantrum.

Seriously. This is a boy. They are different than girls.

[Anonymous]

Low frustration tolerance is one of the many symptoms of ADHD, but if he is able to do his school work and the teachers are not complaining, it sounds like you need to work on behavior modification stuff. It doesn't sound like he needs drugs. Ignore 08:04. We need to function and behave without drugs. I have a son with inattentive ADHD and he does need medication to get through school and homwork, but giving kids something to mellow them out is bordering on drug abuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You son doesn't have ADHD. He has the same disease that plagues most middle school boys. He has "AD"...Also known as Asshole Disease. It gets better when they leave for college. Sort of.

OK, this made me laugh out loud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you are making fun of parents who choose to medicate their children for legitimate reasons by implying that people do this just to make their kids less troublesome and more sedentary.

It's mean.

Incorrect. Please stop trying to mind read anonymous people on a messageboard. You are not very good at it. The next time I want your opinion I will take my dick out of your mouth and ask you for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are making fun of parents who choose to medicate their children for legitimate reasons by implying that people do this just to make their kids less troublesome and more sedentary.

It's mean.

Incorrect. Please stop trying to mind read anonymous people on a messageboard. You are not very good at it. The next time I want your opinion I will take my dick out of your mouth and ask you for it.

Oh, you're a MAN! Now I get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are making fun of parents who choose to medicate their children for legitimate reasons by implying that people do this just to make their kids less troublesome and more sedentary.

It's mean.

Incorrect. Please stop trying to mind read anonymous people on a messageboard. You are not very good at it. The next time I want your opinion I will take my dick out of your mouth and ask you for it.

Oh, you're a MAN! Now I get it.

Or more precisely, a teenage boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are making fun of parents who choose to medicate their children for legitimate reasons by implying that people do this just to make their kids less troublesome and more sedentary.

It's mean.

Incorrect. Please stop trying to mind read anonymous people on a messageboard. You are not very good at it. The next time I want your opinion I will take my dick out of your mouth and ask you for it.

You are revolting.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a medical/hormonal problem that your son himself recognizes. Get a good MD evaluation.

[Anonymous]

While I agree with the posters who suggest that adolescence brings on AD (and I love the term), your DS sounds pretty young to have such major problems. I have a middle school son with ADHD and so much of what you describe sounds like my son on the days that he forgets to take his medication. There certainly isn't any downside to discussing this with his pediatrician and having an evaluation done.

[Anonymous]

OP here - thanks for the feedback. Aside from the exchanges about medication (which I was not a part of), much of the advice borders on what we have already tried, but perhaps try again (with more resolve). He may in fact just have a case of "AD"....appreciate any additional thoughts folks may have. thanks again -

[Anonymous]

When my daughter throws a fit, and lashes out at a person or object. I make her stop, and then I make her tell the person or object how sorry she is, that she thinks they or it is wonderful, then she has to kiss the person on the cheek, or the object. I know this sounds crazy, but it works, especially when it is the wall, or a chair that she has kicked. By the time I am done making her go through this rigamorale, we are both laughing and she realizes how silly her actions were. I used to have to deal with this behavior at least five times a week, we are now down to maybe once every few months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my daughter throws a fit, and lashes out at a person or object. I make her stop, and then I make her tell the person or object how sorry she is, that she thinks they or it is wonderful, then she has to kiss the person on the cheek, or the object. I know this sounds crazy, but it works, especially when it is the wall, or a chair that she has kicked. By the time I am done making her go through this rigamorale, we are both laughing and she realizes how silly her actions were. I used to have to deal with this behavior at least five times a week, we are now down to maybe once every few months.

Hysterical. I'm going to try this to get my daughter (8) to drop the pouty foot stomp (poor floor).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my daughter throws a fit, and lashes out at a person or object. I make her stop, and then I make her tell the person or object how sorry she is, that she thinks they or it is wonderful, then she has to kiss the person on the cheek, or the object. I know this sounds crazy, but it works, especially when it is the wall, or a chair that she has kicked. By the time I am done making her go through this rigamorale, we are both laughing and she realizes how silly her actions were. I used to have to deal with this behavior at least five times a week, we are now down to maybe once every few months.

This is funny-how old is your daughter? Do you think it would work with a 15 year old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You son doesn't have ADHD. He has the same disease that plagues most middle school boys. He has "AD"...Also known as Asshole Disease. It gets better when they leave for college. Sort of.

OK, this made me laugh out loud.

Made me laugh out loud, too! And, boy did I need that laugh today after my nearly 8 year old son about drove me to insanity.

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

OP, one thing about your initial post caught my attention. Your son has a fit if you don't drive him to Target and this happens a few times a week? If I'm understanding this correctly, what does he want to do there? I'm only concerned because in our area it's a Walmart that's the go to place for drugs. Just a thought. Hope that's not the case.