Dating a guy shorter than me...

[Anonymous]

Unless the guy is Billy Joel, I don't think you have anything to worry about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our closest friends have a 5 inch difference between them (she's taller) and she regularly wears high heels and is otherwise herself. I asked her once how they dealt with the height thing when they first started dating, and she responded that it was always a non-issue, because "he doesn't think of himself as short!" I thought that was a great response, and really true in this instance. Like 18:28 says, if the guy doesn't have an issue with it, don't make it into one.

Ha! This is me. I'm 5'9"... well ok, 5'8.75" . . . and I always thought of myself as average height. I never had a problem dating women who were 5'10" and even 6' because I just thought they were tall, not that I was short.

[Anonymous]

I'm short. It would make me feel crummy.

What if he said, "I don't normally date women with less than a C cup size, but I can live with your chest size."

[Anonymous]

This will become such a non-issue if you stay with him and fall in love. I'm on the taller side and my husband is at least 2 inches shorter than me-maybe 2.5 and on my wedding day I wore ballet shoes under the dress and I bought regular shoes too (not super tall) in case they were more comfortable but the ballet shoes were fine. I never think about our height difference anymore. As far as finding a good mate this such be so low on anyone's priority. I know tons of single people who would be thrilled to find a good person to date and so many guys out there are jerks!! Think about what he will be like as a life-partner-a husband and a father and then if you can picture that it's good-if you can't picture that with someone you date of any height then move on no matter what Good luck! I normally wear higher heels to work than home but it's not a major inconvenience and the key is that husband doesn't really care.

[Anonymous]

Tina Fey's husband is a LOT shorter than her.

[Anonymous]

Nah, better to ditch this guy and then complain two years from now that there's no good guys out there.

[Anonymous]

I think it has a lot to do with how confident he is about his height, and whether he makes you feel like a giant. I am 5'11" and had no problems with guys who were 5'8" and were like "you're tall, that's super hot", but a guy who was 6' and worried about me appearing taller than him was a dealbreaker.

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'7" and a size 12 and have been surprised at how many short, skinny guys have been interested in me. Like PPs said: if the height difference were an issue, you would no longer be dating!

[Anonymous]

In my circle of friends, there are a few couples where the husband is towering over the wife. But maybe that's not so strange. Somehow they make it work (people have very indirectly asked how can they be intimate with such a huge height gap!) Like others have said, if the feelings are solid for the person, this "issue" will not get in the way.

[Anonymous]

I love the responses from the men! I am 5'11" and always felt very unfeminine because of my height. It's so wonderful to hear that some of you like taller women! Yay!

[Anonymous]

My guy is

(a) shorter than anyone I'd ever dated before
(b) shorter than almost everyone he's ever dated (seems he liked tall women, or maybe just didn't mind being shorter)
and
(c) the one I married.

You can ask him, fine, but I'll be he won't care. Over time, you think more about the person you're with than what their height is or how other people perceive you.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for all this awesome advice! I am really, really falling for this guy the more I get to know him.

It's funny... when I met him, I thought he was a bit taller than me. Then I realized we were the same height. Then a few days ago he asked my height and then told me I'm 2 inches taller than him. I didn't realize that. And I don't really care.

He has a huge heart, he loves his kids and makes them his priority, he is invested in their activities, he goes to church both alone and with his kids, he's genius smart, he has a wicked dry sense of humor, he is loyal to his family, and I think he's an answered prayer for me!

[Anonymous]

He sounds wonderful!! Congrats!

[Anonymous]

I am a woman who is 6 feet tall, and always dated taller men due to insecurities about my height that stem from always being the tallest girl in my class. I wouldnt even look at shorter men, but the few times I did, they would have problems with my height in heels (because they were insecure I am assuming) so I developed a "third date" test for shorter men. I would wear flats for our first 2 dates, then wear heels on our 3rd date and see what the reaction was. For a few, it was a dealbreaker.

Luckily for me, my husband LOVES that I am tall. He knows that he is 5'10" and has been his whole life. He is confident enough in himself that having a tall woman doesnt bother him at all--who would argue with a 6" tall blonde on your arm? I will admit that I rarely buy/wear heels over 2" high anymore, and have mastered how to seem shorter in photos w/o scrunching down. But I am so very glad that I got over my disdain of shorter men, or I wouldn't have met him.

[Anonymous]

So, he's seen you standing up, right? He's not blind, right? And he keeps wanting to see you?

So why are you posting here?

I'll take a stab at that one. You are the insecure one. You are the shallow one for secretly being embaressed about dating a shorter guy (Oh my, God, a whole 1-2"!!!).

Go ahead and admit it. You'll feel better. Then tell him how shallow you are and how you feel everyone is staring at you when you're out. Then, let him decide if you're as decent as you are tall.