Forum Index
»
Off-Topic
Does your female co-worker's short skirt bother you?
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
|
I remember as a law student instructing a client in a domestic abuse case that she needed to look very, very, nice and well-dressed for court the next day because we were appearing in front of a judge. She nodded and said she would be there in her best outfit. When I picked her up she was wearing a prom gown and stilleto heels.
Everyone has a different definition of looking their best. |
Anonymous
I agree there is a wide range....and it's up to the woman to choose how she wishes to dress. It's no one's place to tell someone else what's appropriate. And the debate has raged here about "frumpy women" and how they don't have to "dress to the nines" because they are intelligent...women who look to look good were called vapid, vain, intellectually-stunted etc. |
Anonymous
*women who like to look good.... 
|
Anonymous
No, but I am very bothered by your nosy, cattish, busybody-like attitude and general "mean girl" behavior, regarding something which has nothing to do with you. |
Anonymous
| Sock puppet much? |
Anonymous
|
I don't know. I had a (lawyer) colleague once at a law firm who was truly stunning and dressed sort of nightclub style - short, tight skirts, low-cut sleeveless blouses, heels. She looked fantastic, but not really professional. I don't know that anyone ever said anything, but I do think she was taken a bit less seriously than she otherwise would have been. Yes, the frumpy-looking female associates in the slacks and turtlenecks got better work. But that may be just a law firm thing.
So it didn't bother me in the sense that I thought it was extremely inappropriate, but I did wonder if she was shooting herself in the foot a bit. And I would personally never dress that way at work even if I could pull it off (which I couldn't), because I wouldn't want to have the feeling, as a different colleague did, that the older male partner was staring at her cleavage. Obviously this is his problem and inability to control himself, not hers - but a nasty sensation all the same and one that I would rather not experience. |
Anonymous
|
Yup. Bothers me completely... honestly, it bothers many of my male coworkers even more. Not bc they don't enjoy looking (trust me, they do) but they get irked that they have to abide by the office dress code (yes, we do have them in our contract) meanwhile the miniskirts get a free pass. The only complaints to HR have been from the men.
Wear what you want on weekends but when you come into the office, leave your miniskirts and jeans at home. |
Anonymous
Well, how short of a skirt are we talkin' here? Are we talkin' this short? 
Or something like this... 
If it's the bottom image, I don't see the major issue. It's attractive that's for sure, but not something that I would complain about. And the men are irked that they have to abide by the dress code... well, what do they want to wear, shorts? The bottom line is, women have more clothing options then men. We can wear skirts, pants, dresses etc. Men can run around with their shirt off playing basketball... women should be allowed to show up at the office wearing an attractive skirt... that god forbid... may accentuate her legs. |
Anonymous
|
I also worked at a firm where one of the attorneys wore sort of "night club" like clothes. That is, they were high-end, designer, etc, but they were low-cut, short skirts, very high heels, tight, etc. It was a BIG topic in the office, among everyone (although the partners were quiet about it). I worked with her and basically kept my mouth shut because I didn't want to seem catty, but it eventually came up with a couple of close friends that it was a topic of general discussion (which I hadn't realized before). I never heard anyone say anything about it other than that they thought it was inappropriate and "what is she thinking" type things. But no one was all "va va va voom" or anything.
To be clear, we're talking pretty inappropriate stuff. She wore a skirt once where, sitting across from her in her office, I could see her panties. It was a pretty run-of-the-mill type of dress for her, so I'm sure it happened on more than one occasion. |
Anonymous
| 19:36 sums up the situation pretty well. I had a former colleague, who, nearly every day wore short skirts and stilletos or low-cut trousers and a high-cut thong. She would then complain about her boss ogling her. First, her boss ogled nearly any woman in the office. Second, her attire departed far from the office norms. I wanted to tell her that I thought her clothes screamed too much about how she wanted to spend her time after work (partying, clubs, dates), not at work. But she was fairly catty and I decided that she would probably see this as me being jealous rather than an older BTDT woman - didn't want to contribute to the gossip mill. She was the first person let go when we had cash flow problems. The head honcho later confided that he didn't think our colleague saw her job as a career and he wanted to keep the folks who were committed to the work. |
Anonymous
| Nope, doesn't matter to me. I'm not the boss though ( where I work). If the boss is fine with it, why is it my business? |
Anonymous
|
As long as you don't look like you are going to the beach, who cares? Most of us know when we look professional vs. when we look like we are desperate.
One woman that used to be in my office was on the large side (so am I, so that part does not matter so much) - except that I don't think she realized how large she was. Which was the sad part. She would show up with a plunging tank top and ultra mini skirt and really (really!) high heels. She found it hard to walk in the heels, and she didn't quite fit (literally) into her outfit. The supervisors were debating who should say something to her to try to save her some dignity. I think the fact that she was the office flirt made it worse. She especially liked married guys. She came across as kind of pathetic. The guys made fun of her behind her back. She had absolutely no idea. It was kind of awful. Writing this, I wonder if any of her new jobs said anything. But who knows how to approach this? Especially when the person is so oblivious and takes any attention the wrong way (as in, the exact opposite)? Anyway, it was awful that she had no idea so my point is that no matter your size ladies, pick a good feature and go with it, but do NOT overdo it. Otherwise, it is just too much! Fine if you want to show your legs, for example. But do not go overboard on all parts. Hopefully, enough said here. |
Anonymous
| I worked at a big law firm about 10 years ago when everyone (i.e., the male associates) were so excited when we hired this hot lateral who dressed very sexily. We all immediately assumed she was a slut. And guess what, she ended up having sex with three of us (no, not at the same time, but over a period of about 18 months). Then she left or was forced out, not sure. |
Anonymous
| no, it doesn't bother me. might i think she could have made a better choice....maybe. but, i think this town is sooo conservative. you should go to NYC and see what professionals wear. they are slightly more risky. |
Anonymous
| I work in IT and now in cybersecurity. There's not many women, period, much less hot women wearing short skirts. |