My family just makes me cry

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP. I have found that the only people who truly "get it" are not those with special degrees or blood ties, but only those who "live it."

My own family is filled with medical professional and teachers. When my DD had a life-threatening peanut allergy, sister in law did not believe in it, and kept Reese's peanut butter cups in reach of my 3 year old at family gatherings. When she was diagnosed with dyslexia, the teacher in the family thought I was overreacting because I resorted to private tutoring. I have two children, with a multitude of LDs and medical issues and I know from the outside looking in, people (even family) think that I overreact and that my kids are overdiagnosed. And they have shown no interest or compassion in what I have been through the past 13 years. And yes, the fact that they are highly educated makes it even more disappointing. But they have no personal dealings with special needs, and so over the years I have found I just can't talk with them about it and go elsewhere (like anonymous discussion boards!) to get emotional support.

So just know you are not alone....

WOW! I'm speechless.

[Anonymous]

I think that perhaps your family is just in denial. Or they don't know what to say. Or they are in shock. I wouldn't immediately think that they aren't being supportive. Or they don't realize how hard it is to be in your shoes right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand feeling disappointed in your family. It sounds like they suck. But my family is straight up batshit crazy- all except my mom but she died 20 years ago. I just got back from 4 days in the hospital and no one visited me once or sent flowers except my husband. My family lives right in the area. Families just suck and they are very often unsupportive. We all have our cross to bear. My kid has Tourette Syndrome, OCD, ADD and seriously no one acknowledges it or even believes it. They can look right at her and see her ticcing and behaving strangely in so many ways and they don't even see it. They are just in their own worlds of narcissism and my response is to try to separate from that, live my life the way I choose, accept them as they are, and expect very little from them.

Are we related? Cause this sounds so much like my family, I had to laugh (even though, trust me, I know it isn't funny).

Were we seperated at birth? This is me!

I'm sorry for you, OP. I think you've gotten good advice. I don't have anything to add other than I feel your pain.

[Anonymous]

Shout out to 11:01 I am soooooo sorry to hear that. They sound like my in-laws.

OP I relate to your post. Wow do I relate and it's soooo hard and painful. My DC has ASD. In our case, I think if DC were adopted they would have handled it well and would have adjusted must quicker. I found that the most educated and accomplished family members had the most trouble with it because they have similar traits to DC. To them I think it was like somebody telling them they were flawed and their genes were not perfection. I will tell you there is hope. I even had a family member apologize and say I was right all along and one confessed eventually that DC's dx was painful because they are so much alike.

Now the in-laws are a different story. They suck. They don't get it. If they saw this grandchild more often there would be no issues. It's our fault blah, blah, blah,

[Anonymous]

Be encouraged...there is love and support for you in the world...Doesn't matter where it's coming from. I have learned that regardless of what you are dealing with It could always be worse so try to find more people witH similar situations...through support groups aNd through this site. God bless