SO annoyances re bragging parents

[Anonymous]

13:53 - ITA. I have seen a parent try to attack another child to deflect from the neediness of their own. It ended up backfiring on the needy child in a rather significant way. If the parents had only put their efforts where they belonged, it would have meant a lot more to their own child in the long run. Really, really sad for the child. The worst part is, I don't think the parents learned their lesson at all. It's just going to get worse for the poor kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care either way as long as they aren't putting down my child. Good for them for being chill or braggy. Doesn't affect me either freaking way.

Seriously!! I've already posted (on the multiple threads these braggart-obsessed posters keep creating) but WHO CARES!! You all are the ones so obsessed with one-upmanship that it gets your goat EVEN DONE ANONYMOUSLY. Stop comparing yourself to others. JUST STOP!! Guess what, someone's kid REALLY IS BETTER THAN YOURS!!! Some little genius out there REALLY IS THE NEW CELLO PHENOM! Another one got a great WIPSI score and got into all the top schools they applied to. They really did. And IT'S NOT YOUR KID. So what? Don't you love your kid more than any other kid anyway?

My kids are THE BEST!!!!! And I mean, IN THE WORLD!! (To me.)

[Anonymous]

I agree with 13:49, the devil is in the details.

For me it's the eye-roll test. How many times did you mention your kid's number of goals in a single conversation? Was there a legitimate reason to mention the soccer goals repeatedly, or can you just not stop yourself talking about it? Is it something like test scores, which often aren't very meaningful for 4-year-olds? Are you my best friend, or the competitive neighbor with the gleam in her eye about getting her kid into Harvard (we all have one of these neighbors)?

So no single rule. But often we know it when we see it....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with 13:49, the devil is in the details.

For me it's the eye-roll test. How many times did you mention your kid's number of goals in a single conversation? Was there a legitimate reason to mention the soccer goals repeatedly, or can you just not stop yourself talking about it? Is it something like test scores, which often aren't very meaningful for 4-year-olds? Are you my best friend, or the competitive neighbor with the gleam in her eye about getting her kid into Harvard (we all have one of these neighbors)?

So no single rule. But often we know it when we see it....

Now it's bragging to have a gleam in your eye because your kid got into one of the top schools in the world. Okay.

Now I have some slight understanding of why some people in this area seem to deadened when they're out and about: they can't even show emotion WITH THEIR EYES w/o being condemned by someone, somewhere. Massive eye-roll to you and your comrades in denial, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with 13:49, the devil is in the details.

For me it's the eye-roll test. How many times did you mention your kid's number of goals in a single conversation? Was there a legitimate reason to mention the soccer goals repeatedly, or can you just not stop yourself talking about it? Is it something like test scores, which often aren't very meaningful for 4-year-olds? Are you my best friend, or the competitive neighbor with the gleam in her eye about getting her kid into Harvard (we all have one of these neighbors)?

So no single rule. But often we know it when we see it....

Now it's bragging to have a gleam in your eye because your kid got into one of the top schools in the world. Okay.

Now I have some slight understanding of why some people in this area seem to deadened when they're out and about: they can't even show emotion WITH THEIR EYES w/o being condemned by someone, somewhere. Massive eye-roll to you and your comrades in denial, PP.

Next time, read the post before responding. It didn't say her kid was IN Harvard. It said she was obsessed with GETTING HER KID into Harvard.

to you, too. Maybe we need a thread on your behavior, next?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care either way as long as they aren't putting down my child. Good for them for being chill or braggy. Doesn't affect me either freaking way.

Seriously!! I've already posted (on the multiple threads these braggart-obsessed posters keep creating) but WHO CARES!! You all are the ones so obsessed with one-upmanship that it gets your goat EVEN DONE ANONYMOUSLY. Stop comparing yourself to others. JUST STOP!! Guess what, someone's kid REALLY IS BETTER THAN YOURS!!! Some little genius out there REALLY IS THE NEW CELLO PHENOM! Another one got a great WIPSI score and got into all the top schools they applied to. They really did. And IT'S NOT YOUR KID. So what? Don't you love your kid more than any other kid anyway?

My kids are THE BEST!!!!! And I mean, IN THE WORLD!! (To me.)

It's not about jealousy. It's about IRRITATION. Posters have said this over and over and over. Too bad you missed it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with 13:49, the devil is in the details.

For me it's the eye-roll test. How many times did you mention your kid's number of goals in a single conversation? Was there a legitimate reason to mention the soccer goals repeatedly, or can you just not stop yourself talking about it? Is it something like test scores, which often aren't very meaningful for 4-year-olds? Are you my best friend, or the competitive neighbor with the gleam in her eye about getting her kid into Harvard (we all have one of these neighbors)?

So no single rule. But often we know it when we see it....

Now it's bragging to have a gleam in your eye because your kid got into one of the top schools in the world. Okay.

Now I have some slight understanding of why some people in this area seem to deadened when they're out and about: they can't even show emotion WITH THEIR EYES w/o being condemned by someone, somewhere. Massive eye-roll to you and your comrades in denial, PP.

Next time, read the post before responding. It didn't say her kid was IN Harvard. It said she was obsessed with GETTING HER KID into Harvard.

to you, too. Maybe we need a thread on your behavior, next?

Ha ha, nice but you should try reading the post yourself. Where does it say she is obsessed with getting her kid into Harvard? It says "she has a gleam in her eye about getting her kid into Harvard." I would be happy for my neighbor and say, "Congrats! You look really proud!"

[Anonymous]

It can be read different ways.

Let's leave the bragging out of it. You are a jerk, pure and simple. Jerks are worse than braggarts in my book. Especially jerks who use too many caps and exclamation points - sounds like you're shouting at the playgound.

[Anonymous]

What I want to know is, was anybody here taught any manners? Bragging is bad manners. So is 14:34's post, in so many ways. We're not talking about which fork to use, we're talking about basic civility which is the grease that makes any community work.

You can let yourself be offended by bad manners, or not. I think Abby would say to ignore it. She'd say something like, don't let braggarts or people like 14:34 get on your nerves, because they may have a problem, but don't make it your problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I want to know is, was anybody here taught any manners? Bragging is bad manners. So is 14:34's post, in so many ways. We're not talking about which fork to use, we're talking about basic civility which is the grease that makes any community work.

You can let yourself be offended by bad manners, or not. I think Abby would say to ignore it. She'd say something like, don't let braggarts or people like 14:34 get on your nerves, because they may have a problem, but don't make it your problem.

Yes, it's rude in so many ways to defend someone for being happy their child got into Harvard. Wait, I'm sorry, for revealing they are happy their child got into Harvard. (And we all know people like that. So gauche. Sigh.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It can be read different ways.

Let's leave the bragging out of it. You are a jerk, pure and simple. Jerks are worse than braggarts in my book. Especially jerks who use too many caps and exclamation points - sounds like you're shouting at the playgound.

I notice that all caps and highlighting in bold doesn't seem to bother you on the other side of the argument.

I am genuinely happy for people who have good things in their lives. I am not irritated by them or jealous of them. I am irritated by people who can't see themselves for what they are, but claim they are "irritated" when they are obviously just plain ol' jealous. So no, I'm not a jerk. People who name-call, on the other hand.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I want to know is, was anybody here taught any manners? Bragging is bad manners. So is 14:34's post, in so many ways. We're not talking about which fork to use, we're talking about basic civility which is the grease that makes any community work.

You can let yourself be offended by bad manners, or not. I think Abby would say to ignore it. She'd say something like, don't let braggarts or people like 14:34 get on your nerves, because they may have a problem, but don't make it your problem.

Yes, it's rude in so many ways to defend someone for being happy their child got into Harvard. Wait, I'm sorry, for revealing they are happy their child got into Harvard. (And we all know people like that. So gauche. Sigh.)

I made the original post about Harvard. The mom in question is trying to get her kid into Harvard and is really competitive with everybody else in range. She fixes you - yes, with a gleam in her eye - and then comes up and asks what your kid is planning for middle school, waht they got on the SSATs, and all the rest.

[Anonymous]

15:56 again. Just to be totally clear, since my post has taken on a life of its own, the mom who is bent on Harvard has a kid in MS, too young to have been accepted at Harvard yet. She views other kids as rivals, which is why I hate dealing with her when she asks questions about my kid (I'm not jealous because her kid is already in Harvard, because she isn't yet). I was saying we all know one mom like this. Hope that helps.

[Anonymous]

That sound you hear is 14:34/14:44 whispering "oh, crap" to herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1- What's your reaction when you see a clearly advanced child but the parents seem chilled?

2- What's your reaction when the parent brags and the kid is indeed brag worth?

These two questions are stink bombs to anyone who has to put up with the children that come out of the upper middle class bragging juggernaut. When I hear anyone call a child a 'clearly advanced child' I immediately interpret it as 'under-achiever headed for drugs followed by therapy.' Same goes for 'brag worth.' Please!