Middle Child Syndrome

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB is Mom Boss -- a nanny must have written that post.

Well, you are wrong. I am not a nanny and it means mother bear, which is sickeningly sweet, but is simpler than writing helicopter mother. You just made an ass of yourself. Congratulations. Wait, this is par for the course for you.

[Anonymous]

Interesting book
Born to rebel
1st born, protect special relationship with parent
Later borns, rebel

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a MC, I find this post a little offensive. Both of my siblings constantly battle depression and take meds. They have poor, superficial relations with others and need constant reassurance from me. I moved away from my family to avoid playing constant mediator. Happy and carefree is not how I'd describe either one of them.

Take note: another politically incorrect subject is MIDDLE CHILD SYNDROME. And the list goes on!

Spoken like a true only child. Don't think you can hide your spots, leopard

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a MC, I find this post a little offensive. Both of my siblings constantly battle depression and take meds. They have poor, superficial relations with others and need constant reassurance from me. I moved away from my family to avoid playing constant mediator. Happy and carefree is not how I'd describe either one of them.

Take note: another politically incorrect subject is MIDDLE CHILD SYNDROME. And the list goes on!

Spoken like a true only child. Don't think you can hide your spots, leopard

Wrong. Youngest of five.

[Anonymous]

The oldest child wants to preserve parental relationship so they don't make waves growing up. They do what they want but they are sneaky and ride under the radar. (Yours truly and many other first borns I know). Those that come later tend to fight and struggle overtly with parents. The youngest has watched it all, parents are done, youngest does what they want to do but they don't have to fight for it so they can retain that sweet disposition and reputation in the family. IMHO of course!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB is Mom Boss -- a nanny must have written that post.

Well, you are wrong. I am not a nanny and it means mother bear, which is sickeningly sweet, but is simpler than writing helicopter mother. You just made an ass of yourself. Congratulations. Wait, this is par for the course for you.

NP to this thread, but you are a piece of work. MB on DCUM is commonly used to refer to Mom Boss, as the other poster noted. I have never seen anyone other than you claim it means mother bear. So what makes you think that the other poster is an ass, and not you? And please support your allegation that that is par for the course for her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Usually people get into the birth order mumbo jumbo when it benefits them..I hear this sometimes from my older sibling..apparently he is "the leader" of the family. Okay.....

I agree. We have a "leader" problem with someone in our family that most people end up asking us if she is the middle child. She's the oldest and has all the same so called issues that are typical of what people (and books) label as Middle Child Syndrome. I think every family has it's special person that they think is screwed up by birth order. In our case, our family member is just a bitch no one likes to be around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB is Mom Boss -- a nanny must have written that post.

Well, you are wrong. I am not a nanny and it means mother bear, which is sickeningly sweet, but is simpler than writing helicopter mother. You just made an ass of yourself. Congratulations. Wait, this is par for the course for you.

NP to this thread, but you are a piece of work. MB on DCUM is commonly used to refer to Mom Boss, as the other poster noted. I have never seen anyone other than you claim it means mother bear. So what makes you think that the other poster is an ass, and not you? And please support your allegation that that is par for the course for her?

Maybe in the Polical forum it's used for Mother Bear.

[Anonymous]

I didn't want to deal with this, so we only have two kids. No advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB is Mom Boss -- a nanny must have written that post.

Well, you are wrong. I am not a nanny and it means mother bear, which is sickeningly sweet, but is simpler than writing helicopter mother. You just made an ass of yourself. Congratulations. Wait, this is par for the course for you.

NP to this thread, but you are a piece of work. MB on DCUM is commonly used to refer to Mom Boss, as the other poster noted. I have never seen anyone other than you claim it means mother bear. So what makes you think that the other poster is an ass, and not you? And please support your allegation that that is par for the course for her?

Maybe in the Polical forum it's used for Mother Bear.

I think that would be Mama Grizzly, no?

[Anonymous]

The youngest has watched it all, parents are done, youngest does what they want to do but they don't have to fight for it so they can retain that sweet disposition and reputation in the family. IMHO of course!

Haha, this is me. I watched how they got into trouble, and just did the opposite. My life was much easier b/c of their struggles.

To go back to the original question, my middle sis has huge MC issues, but I don't blame her. My mom clearly can't stand her, favors older sis, dad favors me. It's sad. She never felt loved or worthy or appreciated for who she was. I just hate it when she takes it out on me, b/c I don't feel like it's my fault. She resents things like me having braces/glasses (YUP) when she has 20/20 vision and perfect teeth!

[Anonymous]

I always thought I was a pretty classic "middle child" - independent (though very close to family) and definitely had the feeling of being a little neglected growing up compared to my siblings. Interestingly though my siblings actually agree with me on that one...

In any case, I think it is more likely for the middle child to feel more neglected, especially in a family of 3 b/c the oldest gets attention simply for being oldest (good and bad attention I should say). The youngest in many families is really the baby, and the middle child doesn't really have a specific role and tends to act out more to get attention.

[Anonymous]

Interestingly, a majority of the middle children I know have become very religious. My brother included.

[Anonymous]

Interestingly, a majority of the middle children I know have become very religious. My brother included.

Really? My middle sibling also - married to a preacher and super religious when we were raised on the cusp of not religious at all (attended until we were confirmed, then we quit going)

[Anonymous]

It depends on the other sexes of the siblings. If the middle child is the only boy or girl sandwiched between two of the opposite sex, then they don't get 'middle child syndrome' since they are not invisible but stand out.