Flying @ 32 Weeks-- How (Un)Comfortable Is It?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay I am going to get flamed for this but you sound like you are using your pregnancy as an excuse to not go to the wedding since you don't like SIL. Sorry but that is mean and pretty imature. I flew at 33 weeks to Phoenix and it was no drama at all-none but I wasn't looking for an excuse not to go somewhere. While it's nice that your hubby is sticking up for you, I think your not going will create a wedge in his family and that is sad as all too often I see guys who start to distance from their family over "wife" issues. I also hear alot of complaining about weddings on this site and think it's interesting that the same people who think people get nutty over weddings feel carte blanche to make their pregnancy the end all be all. Now if you had a medical condition, I would be the first to say bad it but this just seems like a classic case of getting one up on the sister.

Perhaps you should re-read the OP's initial post. She clearly states she is feeling anxious about traveling that far at her late stage in the pregnancy, and while she acknowledges she doesn't like her SIL (and really, who can blame her!) she says she's trying to keep those feelings out of her decision-making process. It sounds like you're just trying to start trouble by calling her mean and immature.

[Anonymous]

I would not fly. Period. If you don't want to go, then just don't go. I would only fly that late in pregnancy if I had to or if I really wanted to. It is such a critical time.

[Anonymous]

I have to agree that the poster that said she might get flamed does deserve it--Wonder if that poster ever experienced any problems in her pregnancy if she has a child--I had to miss a few major family occasions when I was pregnant-one was a wedding where I loved everyone and wanted to be there badly but it was only 3 weeks before I was due so I did not go. There are a million things that can happen at the end of a pregnancy-once several weeks before I was due (about 5) I was at the dr and they thought my blood pressure was high and sent me to the hospital and told me that if it didn't get better they might have to induce me-I forget the details but I got to go home and was fine and delivered a few days before my due date. The point is--Who wants to be so far from home and a plane ride away toward the end-it's not worth it--and the fact that the SIL is acting like that makes it worse-I think that in response to the poster that thought she should go-Why would she risk her child over this???? That is not one-upping someone-it's being responsible to your baby and yourself and I strongly commend your husband for backing you up on this!!!!

[Anonymous]

OP here-- I didn't mean to turn this into a controversial thread. I was really just trying to find out what it was like to fly at 32 weeks before we shelled out $675 for a plane ticket that we might not use. I appreciate all the comments (even the "flamer"). What I'm hearing is that it is hard for me to predict now what I will be like at 32 weeks-- sounds like everyone had a lot of different experiences. In response to flamer-- I wanted to clarify per my original post. I do not want to be a "wedge" and cause more drama in what has already been one of the most drama-filled engagements that I have ever witnessed (which is why my husband is at the end of his rope, unrelated to me coming or not-- this was just the straw that broke the camel's back). I do feel really guilty about causing more drama and worry SIL will hold a grudge-- but honestly, I would still have this question, even if I loved my SIL. As this is my first baby I am nervous about what would happen if I had complications so far from home and whether a 6 hour flight would be totally unbearable (which it sounds like depends on the person). I've never been pregnant before and I have no clue what third trimester feels like. Thanks and have a great long weekend everyone!

[Anonymous]

My doctor says that with a healthy, normal pregnancy you can fly until 34 weeks.

That said, I just flew this weekend (8.5 hr flight) at 20 weeks and I was miserable. I couldn't get comfortable in the seat at all and with all the water I was drinking on my doctor's orders I did have to use the bathroom every 45-60 minutes.

I have to fly again at about 28 weeks (same flight) and I'm really not looking forward to it....

[Anonymous]

I think comfort is one issue- a key issue, yes- but another is, would you want to stay at the place you will be traveling to, should something happen (like you deliver early, have some complications?). I have a few trips planned in Aug and Sept that I'm a little edgy about (due Nov 6) but it came down to - if something happened, would I be ok staying were I was in order to deliver/do post delivery, deal with NICU, etc?
Not trying to be an alarmist by any means, but since this happened to a friend who delivered early and had to stay where she was for a few weeks, it's something that weighs on my mind. This is my second kid and I'm a little "older" so this time around I'm a little more twitchy about things!
Above all else though, do not let anyone bully you into something you are not comfortable with. Pregnancy/delivery, etc is NOT the time to give in. You have to do what you will feel good about. Good luck.