DCUM's made me in to a judgmental bitch.

[Anonymous]

I'm a stroller judge now, but will probably convert to private school/pre-K judge in another year or so when my oldest will be school aged.

Oh, and I judge families by their cars too (and wonder if the cars have a "name") - minivans, cross oves, chunky SUVs...and those STUIPED stick figures on the back window describing their family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I agree it has made you a judgmental bitch. You can't afford a $10 gift to help your friend celebrate the birth of their 2nd child? I am sure the shower itself (w/ food, drink etc) will be worth the $10 you spend. It is not about whether the person you're buying for already has everything... it is about participating in the celebration of life. Obviously you should NOT attend this shower if you're that bitter!!

I have to disagree. If you are wealthy, you don't need a traditional shower for your first baby, let alone your second. There are many ways to celebrate that don't have to include gift-giving to people who really don't need it. Have a party and specify no gifts. Have people bring stuff to be donated to a women's shelter.

Ok. WOW! I guess I'm considered "wealthy" by some, but I'd like to know why I shouldn't have had a shower? I think you're just an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a stroller judge now, but will probably convert to private school/pre-K judge in another year or so when my oldest will be school aged.

Oh, and I judge families by their cars too (and wonder if the cars have a "name") - minivans, cross oves, chunky SUVs...and those STUIPED stick figures on the back window describing their family.

I'm totally a stroller judge now too, where I wan't before DCUM. I would go along my merry way....including all moms with all strollers. But now, a recently disowned a friend of mine who had a GRACO!!!! So below me.

[Anonymous]

No quilted jackets for you or your kids - ever!

[Anonymous]

I don't really think a shower for a second baby is appropriate, per se, but I would generally keep those thoughts to myself. I just probably wouldn't go out of my way to attend (unless I really wanted to see the people attending), like I might for a first shower. That said, I do tend to give gifts for the second (or third) baby - when I go to visit the baby for the first time. this is especially true if the 2nd baby is a different sex from the first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't really think a shower for a second baby is appropriate, per se, but I would generally keep those thoughts to myself. I just probably wouldn't go out of my way to attend (unless I really wanted to see the people attending), like I might for a first shower. That said, I do tend to give gifts for the second (or third) baby - when I go to visit the baby for the first time. this is especially true if the 2nd baby is a different sex from the first.

Weddings showers aren't supposed to be hosted by family members. How many people follow that "rule"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: It was hard enough to get #1 a gift, that child has EVERYTHING!

I was not like that before DCUM!

Decline the invitation.
Nothing wrong with a shower for baby #2 or #3. It is still a new baby

[Anonymous]

OP here and the shower just got canceled because less than 25% responded YES to the evite.

They switched to a later date so more people could come.

What should I think about them now? LOL

[Anonymous]

go as a consolation guest