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DCUM's made me in to a judgmental bitch.
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Anonymous
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I never knew about showers for 2nd babies to be considered tacky until I started reading DCUM.
What a surprise when I got an email to invite us to a 2nd baby shower (#1 just turned 1 last month) and I feel all yucked to go and buy them something. I honestly doubt they need anything, they're pretty wealthy. It was hard enough to get #1 a gift, that child has EVERYTHING! I was not like that before DCUM! 
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Anonymous
| Yes, I agree it has made you a judgmental bitch. You can't afford a $10 gift to help your friend celebrate the birth of their 2nd child? I am sure the shower itself (w/ food, drink etc) will be worth the $10 you spend. It is not about whether the person you're buying for already has everything... it is about participating in the celebration of life. Obviously you should NOT attend this shower if you're that bitter!! |
Anonymous
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You found the perfect word... I"m really really bitter. They don't want even to tell us if it's a boy or girl (they know already) ARGH!
If they want to celebrate life why not throw a dinner party? It's a lady's only event, DH is home just during weekends and I'll HAVE to go. ARGHx2 |
Anonymous
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I have to say, I really don't get why a second-baby shower is tacky. It shouldn't be ridiculously large and the registry shouldn't be for things they already have -- but things like onesies, new sheets, etc. are needed. And the second baby is just as exciting and special to the parents as the first.
(BTW, I never knew about the second-baby shower being tacky until very recently, and in fact threw one about a year ago. The couple was having financial trouble and did need some new things. Hope I wasn't considered tacky.) |
Anonymous
You write a rude response judging the OP and then have the gall to sound worked up about her being judgmental? Aren't you making her point? Or perhaps you were a judgmental B before you started reading DCUM. |
Anonymous
My guess is you're someone who had a shower for a second baby. |
Anonymous
I have to disagree. If you are wealthy, you don't need a traditional shower for your first baby, let alone your second. There are many ways to celebrate that don't have to include gift-giving to people who really don't need it. Have a party and specify no gifts. Have people bring stuff to be donated to a women's shelter. |
Anonymous
| Are you sure you weren't this way before? Often your true character shines during lifes highs and lows. |
Anonymous
| Get the baby a book or a lovey-type toy of its own. |
Anonymous
| I agree that second showers are tacky, but I think the PPs are missing OP's point. I've definitely become more judgmental of other people's parenting by reading DCUM and realizing just how much there is to judge. Overall DCUM is about 10% helpful and about 90% makes me hate myself. Yet I'm addicted. Sigh. |
Anonymous
| DCUM is like rubber necking at an accident but the only difference is that the drivers yell out their windows 'Hey Asshole, don't put your kid in a puffy coat in that carseat', as the victims are being wheeled away by the medics. |
Anonymous
Thank you for a hearty laugh at the end of an exhausting day. |
Anonymous
PP, you're the only one so far getting what I meant. I have so many hand me downs I would like to give to her (my DC is 5mo old) but now with a shower I feel bad thinking she's expecting new things. (with a 13mo old I guess she would have enough HMDs right?) |
Anonymous
| yes, in fact, this web makes me bitter. |
Anonymous
Best comment ever. |