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| Mine are at 2 different high schools. They went to the same school through 8th grade (although didn't overlap the first and last 3 years due to the age gap) and that was a help logistically since we have two WOH parents. Its working out great now because they are very different kids and are each thriving at their respective schools (and yes, one is single sex). One kid said just yesterday that they are glad they don't go to the same school so they can't be compared to each other. |
Anonymous
Dream on, Mom! |
Anonymous
While I don't recall saying "I love you" to my brother when we attended the same (private) school, we were close and we did hang out together and watch each other's backs (not that backs really needed watching all that much). I wouldn't have it be the primary reason to send kids to the same school, but if you think that a school would work for both, then it's definitely a bonus, in my opinion. |
Anonymous
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10:29 here again.
Me and my brother were always competitive from the very beginning. Being in the same school didn't make it worse of better. We're 13 months apart and people often thought we were twins. We rarely met in the hallways and if we did we'd ignore each other. I will never forget the only one day we had to look for each other (mom had switch our lunches) and we could not for the life of me find each other. We didn't know where each other hang out during recess!!!! As we grew older and went separate ways it got worse. The competition (from his part) was just ridiculous. I applied for college and what was my surprise in the following year when it's his turn: he applied for the same college as me. Our classes were rivals, college was ugly! But I don't think being in the same or different schools made it any worse. As I said before, my brother always compared himself to me a lot and now, after 30 years we're coming to terms. It's never late, I guess. |
Anonymous
Dream on, honey. Maybe in parochial catholic schools but certainly not in any of the DC metro area privates. (I wish). |
Anonymous
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My brother and I were two years apart, and went to the same schools. Though we were reasonably competitive, we got along well, and even participated in some of the same activities. This was a good thing.
My girls currently go to the same school (they are little, though), and they love it. The younger one feels so much more confident going to her sister's school. It feels like they are on the same team, if that makes sense. I understand doing same-sex schools for each, but I wonder about your proposal... Might your daughter think that her co-ed school was good enough for her, but that no good enough for her brother? That he was getting special treatment somehow? Just a thought. Unless there was an obvious specialized fit - a school for the arts for her, for example. |
Anonymous
| My two (boy/girl) are young but so far they love being in the same school. They are excited to see each other occassionally on the playground or in each other's performances. I wonder if the younger one will feel like they are following the older one eventually, but its normal for younger siblings to follow the older one. We love having a sense of family community at our school. We are very involved and have friends who attend the same school. I can't imagine having them at different places right now. When they are older, I could see it more I guess, but I would want them to have a say in where they go if they are going to be separate. |
Anonymous
| OP here -- again some great points. I don't know why on earth I didn't consider the fact that they may be compared to each other and one could feel inferior. This is particularly odd bc I have a sister one year younger; we went to the same school and she was always compared to me. We are not close largely bc of this even to this day. |
Anonymous
| My brother and I were separated expressly because I was gifted and he had pretty profound learning differences and my mom didn't want us compared. |
Anonymous
Mine are young (K and 1st) and they hug and say "I love you" to each other in the halls. While I figure that won't always be the cae I will expect them to watch out for each other. My sister and I are two years apart and we were always there for each other. We had elective classes together and nearly all the same friends. It was the same for our older siblings that are 1.5 years apart. Our brother always watched out for our older sister and vise versa. |
Anonymous
| I've got two in the same school, but they are young - K and 2nd Grade. We actually did not set out to send them both to the same school. We launched a new school search for #2, but it ended up coming down to the same two schools that were on our short list for #1. I agree that you should consider the fit for each kid. but, I have to say, they are really excited about being at the same school. I know that could change as they get older and you run into the comparison thing, but for right now they are both really happy to be together and we love that we have only one school to be loyal (and donate and volunteer) to. They are the same gender but very different personalities. We'll see if that is enough to stop the comparisons as they get older. |