HoliDrama

[Anonymous]

I would not be able to resist confronting the relative and I would not be diplomatic about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please talk me down from calling these people and blasting them.

If this is real, I don't want to talk you down from doing what you proposed. Another suggestion would be to look directly at her and say loudly, "Well, at least it wasn't like how Ryan O'Neil hit on his own daughter, Tatum, at Farrah Fawcett's funeral. Apparently, he didn't recognize her since they hadn't spoken in years; you know, because of all the drug problems and incest accusations. Now that would really be something... Talk about dysfunctional families..."

[Anonymous]

This just gets more bizarre. I ignored it all weekend but this relative is standing by his "story". I haven't picked up the phone and called yet but I am still fighting the urge to blast these people. These are relatives on my FIL's side that we rarely see (because I hit on people! ha!) but that important to my husband. How do I resolve this without further damaging the relationship but firmly letting them know these accusations are not only false but extremely hurtful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This just gets more bizarre. I ignored it all weekend but this relative is standing by his "story". I haven't picked up the phone and called yet but I am still fighting the urge to blast these people. These are relatives on my FIL's side that we rarely see (because I hit on people! ha!) but that important to my husband. How do I resolve this without further damaging the relationship but firmly letting them know these accusations are not only false but extremely hurtful?

OP, at this point I would say your Dh needs to step up and handle this and firmly set the record straight. This means getting in touch with a senior member of his family, someone whose authority is untouchable, and letting him/her know what's going on and enlisting aid in countering this situation. He should explain UNEMOTIONALLY what has occurred, let this person know you and he have just found out about the rumor, and above all present a united front. Ask that he make a few phone calls on your behalf, to the rumor-mongerer and her most evil rumor spreaders, and to the most powerful members of the family.

Although it's painful for you, I think you and your DH need to appear at family events in the meantime. Act as the loving couple you are.

[Anonymous]

Ok this is so stupid. Don't these family members have jobs or other things to do besides create and add to the drama?

[Anonymous]

DH called the cousin who the demented aunt was talking about. He had no idea what my dh was talking about and said his mother was a kook.

There is not enough booze in the world to deal with the crazy that the holidays bring out. NOT ENOUGH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH called the cousin who the demented aunt was talking about. He had no idea what my dh was talking about and said his mother was a kook.

There is not enough booze in the world to deal with the crazy that the holidays bring out. NOT ENOUGH.

That sounds like the best possible outcome.

[Anonymous]

Could the aunt have an age-related progressive disease?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could the aunt have an age-related progressive disease?

No, she's not that old. She's a bit of an alcoholic and just repeating something she "thought" she heard but didn't hear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH called the cousin who the demented aunt was talking about. He had no idea what my dh was talking about and said his mother was a kook.

There is not enough booze in the world to deal with the crazy that the holidays bring out. NOT ENOUGH.

Well, since the cousin was the person who was supposedly hit on and is denying it happened as well, I'd say problem solved. Just ignore the drunk aunt. Not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH called the cousin who the demented aunt was talking about. He had no idea what my dh was talking about and said his mother was a kook.

There is not enough booze in the world to deal with the crazy that the holidays bring out. NOT ENOUGH.

Well, since the cousin was the person who was supposedly hit on and is denying it happened as well, I'd say problem solved. Just ignore the drunk aunt. Not a big deal.

Agree. If the crazy aunt's own son thinks she is crazy, then the other relatives probably don't listen to her. Just ignore.