Mother offering to stay with husband and me for six months. Good idea?

[Anonymous]

OP, you'll need to think about whether you want your mother to take care of the baby, or take care of you so you can take care of the baby. In other words, sort out the roles in your own mind before she comes -- if indeed you want her to come.

[zumbamama]

Maybe you can ask her to stay just 1-2 months? That's usually the hardest adjustment period, and extra help will lessen the sleep deprivation a bit. Plus, it's a great chance for grandmother-baby bonding. But I guess you have to weigh out all the pluses and minuses before you agree.

[Anonymous]

My mom came and stayed with us for six months. There are pluses and minuses but it worked really well for us. There were too many pluses and not enough minuses not to do it. I'd rather have my mom take care of the newborn when I have to go back to work rather than an outside person.

[Anonymous]

Just relax and receive the blessing of support from your mom. At some point, ask her if her own mother was around when you were born (and if her mother drove her crazy). Make sure your mother understands why she's there. It may be necessary to remind her that the only question she is allowed to ask is "how can I help". She is not allowed to ask "why are you doing it that way?"

[Anonymous]

I would normally say "are you crazy?', but since you stated you are going back to work, I am going to assume it will be after 6-12 weeks. I now say what a gift to have family, your own mother to take care of the baby for the time you are away. Thank your lucky stars you have a mom willing to do this. It is a huge commitment of her part too. Good luck with your choice. and the birth of your baby.