What have you put off doing because you think/hope you'll be pregnant soon?

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Anonymous wrote:1) Vacations--I'd love to take a while off and have a real vacation on a beach somewhere but have been too scared that it may interfere with cycling

2) Getting into better shape. I don't have a lot of weight to lose, necessarily, but like you all have said, you can't exercise/diet too much without possibly interfering with fertility (and why go to all that trouble for a great body when you're just going to ruin it for awhile anyway?)

3) Seeing friends more--everyone knows I'm trying to get pregnant and I'm sick of getting asked if it worked yet. Sad, but true.

Really??? How??? I exercise a lot and keep really fit. For one, it makes me feel great (runner's high) and builds my confidence, puts me in a good mood, etc. AND if I do get pregnant, the weight will be that much easier to shed post partum.

To be honest, I haven't really put too much on hold. We've always lived modestly so we have some savings for if/when a baby comes along (I plan to SAH). Giving things up/putting things off would only make me depressed - especially since it's not a guaranteed tradeoff.

Exercise can mess up your hormone profile. My RE recommends light cardio (as in brisk walking) rather than running. Even with fertility meds, REs have historically had a hard time manipulating my hormones the way they want -everything seems to screw up my system. I know other women like this. I also know women who did marathon training while ttc, and were ultimately successful. I've spent enough time in an REs office at this point, that I am willing to forgo my gym rat ways if it improves my chance of having a baby.

[Anonymous]

I think some of us who have had miscarriages are more apt to put physical thngs off for fear of triggering another loss. Strange foods accompany travel, for example, such as unpasteurized cheeses, plus when we travel we want to relax and celebrate (hello vino). If TTC, it is difficult to fully enjoy. these sorts of things.

[Anonymous]

My Dh and I finally conceived on the month that I let everything go and gave up, I really don't think we have much control on what happens despite all efforts to feel like we have control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:that's sad especially since you at least have one kid, how about those of us with NO kids yet? Sorry to sound bitter, but it's been a tough road.

This is unkind.

I have no doubt you are traveling a tough road, and you may indeed be very bitter about it. But these are not justifications to be mean to other people.

Please try harder to find compassion for others who are struggling, including those with secondary infertility. Or at a minimum, keep your unkind thoughts to yourself.

All the best with your efforts to conceive.

[Anonymous]

I don't take medicine (and of course have had some brutal colds lately) - don't want to run the risk that they will interact poorly with all the other meds I am on.
I don't drink and have cut way back on coffee. I have kept dd#1 baby stuff - just in case despite how much space this stuff is taking up. No planned vacations since we never know when we have to go in for monitoring, etc.
The worse thing though, I have pushed off being happy which is so sad.

[Anonymous]

Being happy and enjoying the moment, because I'm way too focused on whether the next cycle will work.

[Anonymous]

We've put off vacations and trips to see family because of timing of cycles and the cost of IF hasn't left much money leftover for entertainment.

[Anonymous]

I've put off seeing friends more recently---especially those that know that I'm trying to conceive. It's just too hard seeing them when I know full well that they know how unsuccessful our efforts are

[Anonymous]

I put off way too much...almost put my life on hold.

I am glad I had a DH who could be more directed in positive ways, because he forced my involvement in a lot of things 'outside' the fertility rollercoaster.

Now, looking back after success, I am a bit ashamed of how worthlessly preoccupied I was on things that I had absolutely no control over.

I wished I had organized my living 'space' better (closets, desk, books, crafts).
I wish I had organized my finances better.
I wish I had organized my social life better...or at least focused more outwardly than inwardly. I think I lost some friends because of preoccupation with my own struggles.

Because now I am overwhelmed (joyful, but overwhelmed) with clutter, disorganization, lack of space, lack of time, lack of a knowledge of where things are stored, etc.

As a BTDT...I entirely understand the 'putting things off' mindset...but either way, success or not, it does one no good.

I hope all of you come to see this in the end, due to your successful pregnancies!!

[Anonymous]

I haven't really "put off" doing things - it's more that the constant monitoring, drives to the pharmacy and side effects from drugs have interfered with my schedule.

[Anonymous]

OP here, I broke down and bought a few new pieces of clothing. It's fun to have one or two new outfits to wear around. Part of me wanted to buy something that could work during early pregnancy and the other wanted to buy super sexy stuff that you can only wear when your tummy is (relatively) flat. I went somewhere in between. Overall it felt good to do it.

[Anonymous]

Filling out adoption paperwork -- I've been ttc a long, long time and each month I tell myself, if it doesn't work this time, I'll finalize the paperwork.
Also furnishing the guest bedroom. I so want it to be a nursery that I just can't bring myself to put anything in it. I feel like if I make it a nursery, I'll jinx myself and if I make it a guest bedroom, I'll jinx myself.