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What have you put off doing because you think/hope you'll be pregnant soon?
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Anonymous
| For me it's new clothes because I think/hope to be buying maternity clothes instead (even though I really need new work stuff) and remodeling our guest room/hope to be baby's room. We've lived in our house for 3 years and it is the only room we haven't painted or done much with. It's actually kind of sad for guests, but we ignore the room as much as possible. |
Anonymous
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Changing jobs (I hate my job and hope to stay home when #2 is born).
A hard core diet and exercise program to lose 15 lbs. Buying clothes (though that's related to the diet/exercise). |
Anonymous
| Everything, and every month of disappointment makes me crazier. |
Anonymous
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Leaving my job (I also want to stay home once #2 is born), buying new clothes, hanging out with friends who I think might be pregnant right now but I can't bear seeing them. Our first kids are the same age and I don't want to be stuck in a conversation about the next baby when I have nothing to contribute. My poor son hasn't had many play dates with his friends lately. I just can't handle it. Is that sad or what?!
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Anonymous
| that's sad especially since you at least have one kid, how about those of us with NO kids yet? Sorry to sound bitter, but it's been a tough road. |
Anonymous
OP again, I have also put off losing about 10lbs which would put me in really good shape. I just don't see the point of getting a flat tummy right now. On the flip side, I do keep buying bottles of wine, almost as a game. Like if I buy enough wine it would be just my luck that I'd get pregnant and can't drink them 
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Anonymous
Unfortunately none of us would be lucky to win the "who has it tougher" contest. It's been a tough road for a lot of people, even those with kid(s). I think her point was that sometimes having one child makes avoiding some difficult situations all that much harder. |
Anonymous
I agree. We should not have a contest of who has suffered the most heartache. This is completely uncalled for. |
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I've been putting off the weight loss too. Except in the last couple of months I've been taking pilates again. It has helped a lot to have something that I do for my self not related to TTC. But I will be thrilled if I have the opportunity to loose that newly flat stomach and switch my registration to prenatal yoga. I can only hope
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Part of me feels like I should embrace all the "I can do it b/c I'm not pregnant" things... sometimes I think that only some of them impare fertility, but I can't get the nagging "what if?" out of my mind.
I think I'm going to finally crash and get new clothes, though. I find it even more depressing to be poorly-dressed in outmoded stuff. I figure if I win the lottery I'll be glad to have wasted the money on clothes I wound up not really needing. |
Anonymous
| I put off travel to Europe for a while, even though I could ahve gone for work. When i finally did get a chance and booked a flight, I got pregnant. Because I had had a miscarraige and was very concerned, I cancelled the trip. One month after the trip would have occurred, I miscarried again. So, I missed Europe and another baby. I'm giving it one more year, and then I'll travel again when I can. But eating that $800 ticket sucked big time on some many levels. |
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I've been postponing a search for a new job for 3 years now since I didn't want to deal with pregnancy and new stressful job. At this point I am not sure whether I will ever get a chance to be a mother, so I just need to find at least a job that would make me happy.
After so many years of TTC, I learned at least not to postpone trips and buying new clothes. Little things in life like an exciting trip or a new designer bag helped me keep my sanity .
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Anonymous
| Leaving my job. With dc#1 I turned down a job b/c getting parental leave there would have required being there a year and I wasn't willing to delay trying to get pregnant. Now have a 3.5 yo and 8 mo and am still at the same crappy job b/c it doesn't make sense to leave and want to give 150% at a new job to prove myself when I'm struggling to just get through the week. Plus the idea of having time and energy to job hunt productively is a joke. I wish I'd taken that job 4 years ago. |
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1) Vacations--I'd love to take a while off and have a real vacation on a beach somewhere but have been too scared that it may interfere with cycling
2) Getting into better shape. I don't have a lot of weight to lose, necessarily, but like you all have said, you can't exercise/diet too much without possibly interfering with fertility (and why go to all that trouble for a great body when you're just going to ruin it for awhile anyway?) 3) Seeing friends more--everyone knows I'm trying to get pregnant and I'm sick of getting asked if it worked yet. Sad, but true. |
Anonymous
Really??? How??? I exercise a lot and keep really fit. For one, it makes me feel great (runner's high) and builds my confidence, puts me in a good mood, etc. AND if I do get pregnant, the weight will be that much easier to shed post partum. To be honest, I haven't really put too much on hold. We've always lived modestly so we have some savings for if/when a baby comes along (I plan to SAH). Giving things up/putting things off would only make me depressed - especially since it's not a guaranteed tradeoff. |