I would love thoughts on my possible SN child

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP, that sounds painful to live with, day in, day out.

My oldest has autism and my youngest has extremely mild, barely-there, autism, which probably means that my husband and I are also spectrumy, but none of us are in-your-face unsympathetic like you describe. My husband and my daughter can both lay out harsh truths when goaded, but they don't deliberately set out, every day, to say such things.

I imagine that your child's profile could qualify for autism, but I worry that there could be more to it, like an anti-social personality disorder (what people informally call sociopathy or psychopathy). When scheduling a neuropsychological evaluation for her, during the intake conversation and subsequent behavioral questionnaires, please describe in detail what you just laid out.

[Anonymous]

I agree with a pp that this could be something other than ASD, but I very strongly recommend parenting coaching first. You have a lot on your plate with your kids, sound completely burned out, and she knows it and is feeding off of it. You gotta get to the point where you can pick your battles and stop being so reactive all of the time.

[Anonymous]

My autistic daughter is exactly like yours OP. What we do is this "I will answer your question as to why we have this rule, but it's not an invitation for an argument or rebuttal." And then I won't engage further.