DD only doing summer job for boy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is applying for a job at Taco Bell because she thinks that getting a discount on Taco Bell is the best possible perk for a job. She could have had a number of other jobs, but this is the one she pursued for her own (dumb) reason.

You maybe should consider that "making money" is not a "more admirable" reason than "because she loves their quesadilla" and "because she likes a boy." That's your adult values judging a teenager's job. Let her be a teenager for like 5 minutes before you expect her to have adult values.

I like your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, I'd be a little worried. What happens if the boy quits?

You are beyond weird. “Worried”?

[Anonymous]

My mom only got a job as a camp counselor because my dad was working there and she had a crush on him. They were happily married for more than 50 years.

[Anonymous]

Oh for heaven's sake, weren't you ever a teenage girl?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds so normal. I would be thankful that the thing she did for a boy was get a job...

+1 joined an extracurricular for a boy in college. Seems pretty normal at that age.

[Anonymous]

whatever. there are better reasons, but as long as it is a reasonable job, let it go. and watch how it plays out - maybe she'll like this guy or maybe she'll find out he is a jerk. maybe she will like this job or maybe she will realize she should have looked harder.

[Anonymous]

Whether or not her motives were “admirable”, having a job has value. She’ll be doing something productive, getting real world experience, and making a little money of her own. At worst, it’ll be a bad job that will help her realize she should have considered more factors than her boyfriend, which is itself a valuable lesson.

[Anonymous]

Sounds normal to me.

[Anonymous]

This will be a good learning experience you can refer to in two years when she wants to choose her college based on where her current boyfriend or best friend is going.

[Anonymous]

When she gets to know him she may stop liking him. Tale as old as time.

[Anonymous]

Pretty much every life decision I made between ages 16 to 25 was influenced in part by which guys were involved.

[Anonymous]

This may be the most normal thing I’ve seen on this site in weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty much every life decision I made between ages 16 to 25 was influenced in part by which guys were involved.

This! Including my first job at 16!

[Anonymous]

When I was 20 I had a highly desirable job at a research lab assisting a grad student. It was utterly depressing and lonely because no one spoke English and I ended up quitting to work at a sandwich shop. Completely stupid decision in retrospect but I didn’t have a mentor to talk me out of it and the ONLY thing I could think about was getting the opportunity to meet/flirt with guys (heavily female campus with tons of Chinese students so I was at a huge disadvantage.) never underestimate the single mindedness of a young person…

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When I was a freshman in college 20+ years ago, I switched from a biology class to a history class so I could spend time with a girl I liked. We have been married for 15 years and now have 4 kids.