DH puts baby to sleep in our living room and insists I be quiet as a mouse

[Anonymous]

I was your husband, back in the day. I wanted my babies as close to me as possible. We both made an effort to be quiet, but truthfully, they weren't that fussy.

Babies don't need fancy nurseries, OP. They need to be live close to their parents.

[Anonymous]

Why don’t you have child care? Despicable.

[Anonymous]

It’s not a good idea to keep a house very quiet for a baby. They need to be able to sleep through noise. However, baby needs to be in the nursery and you should have childcare.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. The most important thing that you are learning at this stage of parenting has absolutely nothing to do with the baby (and where he sleeps could not be less important) but rather how you COMMUNICATE with your spouse.

WHY does he put the baby to sleep in the living room? Every possible answer stems from an understanding of that.

This, x1000!

Discuss this with him at NOT 2pm - discuss why he wants to do this, what that means for you in the kitchen, and so forth.

While I think the baby should sleep in his nursery because then the 2 adults may move around their house with ease, that's me. ALSO - you CAN and SHOULD make noise when a baby is sleeping so that they learn to sleep through things. Now, should you take 15 minutes to run a food processor that is LOUD? No, but putting dishes in/out of dishwasher, washing dishes, cooking, etc can absolutely happen - those are regular noises all people should be able to sleep through. (unless your baby is SO DIFFICULT to keep asleep, but then the baby needs to be in the nursery so regular life can go on.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. The most important thing that you are learning at this stage of parenting has absolutely nothing to do with the baby (and where he sleeps could not be less important) but rather how you COMMUNICATE with your spouse.

WHY does he put the baby to sleep in the living room? Every possible answer stems from an understanding of that.

This, x1000!

Discuss this with him at NOT 2pm - discuss why he wants to do this, what that means for you in the kitchen, and so forth.

While I think the baby should sleep in his nursery because then the 2 adults may move around their house with ease, that's me. ALSO - you CAN and SHOULD make noise when a baby is sleeping so that they learn to sleep through things. Now, should you take 15 minutes to run a food processor that is LOUD? No, but putting dishes in/out of dishwasher, washing dishes, cooking, etc can absolutely happen - those are regular noises all people should be able to sleep through. (unless your baby is SO DIFFICULT to keep asleep, but then the baby needs to be in the nursery so regular life can go on.)

Exactly!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:How old is baby? Is baby a newborn and still in your room to sleep and so this is also keeping the infant near you?

Do you people never read the actual OP, just the subject line? JFC.

Okay, if I missed it, please tell me the age of the baby and if the nursery is in their room or in a separate / another room. I reread it and still don't see the details that you are apparently seeing.

"Baby has a beautiful nursery with his crib, baby monitor, etc."

NP and we can all infer not a newborn if they are both WFH and not on maternity/paternity leave at the moment.

Wow I want to live in your world where all new parents are given 3+ months of leave. Sounds incredible. Unfortunately, most of us live in the US where we hate new parents, moms especially.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he is too lazy to go upstairs. Not a good look.

[Anonymous]

Your husband a balding simp

[Anonymous]

Team husband. What's the point of having a baby if you can't be close to him or her? If you were working out of the home, of course they would be with a nanny or at daycare. But working from home? My baby would be right next to me, OP, and they would have no trouble sleeping

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he is too lazy to go upstairs. Not a good look.

This!
That baby needs to be in their room.

[Anonymous]

Who is caring for the baby while you re both working?

[Anonymous]

Why is that c unt operating in the living room

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Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you have child care? Despicable.

This. I can’t stand fake WFH-ers. Ruin it for everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Yeah OP I did the WFH thing with a toddler - because it was the pandemic and the daycare centers were closed.

Get thee some child care.

[Anonymous]

So cheap