Losing Friends at the End of High School

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As the mom of a senior who never found her people in HS, I am glad to be done with this chapter in her life. Looking forward the college years where she will have more than 100 people to choose from to make friends. She has plenty of friends outside of school...just her HS was not a good fit for her. I believe this experience made her more resilient and self aware. OP time for you daughter to move on. Girls are the worst...my son never had issues like this.

This was my kid last year. And for what it's worth, she found her people easily in college. I wish high school had been different for her, but then again, I wish high school had been different for me too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As the mom of a senior who never found her people in HS, I am glad to be done with this chapter in her life. Looking forward the college years where she will have more than 100 people to choose from to make friends. She has plenty of friends outside of school...just her HS was not a good fit for her. I believe this experience made her more resilient and self aware. OP time for you daughter to move on. Girls are the worst...my son never had issues like this.

Isn't that bullying? Seems like she was isolated.

[Anonymous]

Everybody moves on, same with college graduation. It's sad on one level, but kids grow up. My DD's HS class didn't even have a ten year reunion. They are all over the country, a number married with kids. Lives have completely changed.

[Anonymous]

I was happy to see my rising college junior get together with high school friends when they come home for the summer. However, as the kids’ summer plans, jobs, etc. keep them from coming home as often or being as available, friendships can ebb and flow. In an ideal world, our kids will find their people at every life stage, but that may not always be the case and that’s ok and completely normal.

[Anonymous]

Duplicate thread from teens

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As the mom of a senior who never found her people in HS, I am glad to be done with this chapter in her life. Looking forward the college years where she will have more than 100 people to choose from to make friends. She has plenty of friends outside of school...just her HS was not a good fit for her. I believe this experience made her more resilient and self aware. OP time for you daughter to move on. Girls are the worst...my son never had issues like this.

Isn't that bullying? Seems like she was isolated.

What does it matter what you call it? It’s an extremely common experience for girls, especially at small high schools.

[Anonymous]

It’s very common. My DD’s friendships unraveled right at the end, and then near the end of college they all seemed to kind of reconnect — not as besties, but as friends, nonetheless.

[Anonymous]

My DD got booted from the group over a boy she liked; they hated. He is actually a nice kid but he didn’t like some of them. It is unfortunate though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As the mom of a senior who never found her people in HS, I am glad to be done with this chapter in her life. Looking forward the college years where she will have more than 100 people to choose from to make friends. She has plenty of friends outside of school...just her HS was not a good fit for her. I believe this experience made her more resilient and self aware. OP time for you daughter to move on. Girls are the worst...my son never had issues like this.

Isn't that bullying? Seems like she was isolated.

I don't think so. She was very involved in many activities...just never got into a "friend group." She's a bit quirky, which wasn't a good fit in that particular all-girls environment unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Some people are disengaging socially. Mentally and emotionally are focused on what's ahead, not what they are leaving behind. They haven't been forced out of a friend group, they just are connected.

[Anonymous]

I can relate - youngest DD lost her best friends the last few months of high school. Agree with the job for the summer or a lot of volunteer work where she can meet other teens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As the mom of a senior who never found her people in HS, I am glad to be done with this chapter in her life. Looking forward the college years where she will have more than 100 people to choose from to make friends. She has plenty of friends outside of school...just her HS was not a good fit for her. I believe this experience made her more resilient and self aware. OP time for you daughter to move on. Girls are the worst...my son never had issues like this.

All girls school?