Advice for gay son about to start college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Condoms, condoms, condoms!

Of course, but also PReP.

Condoms are not “safe sex;” they are only safer-sex.

Condoms break, especially with anal (and more so without sufficient lube).

PReP is for accidents and unprotected anal sex. It’s the best available protection, when combined with condoms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be brutally honest, OP, I would tell him to be very discreet at first until he's more attuned to his surroundings. I grew up in Scotland. I know things have changed for the better, but there's still such a thing as gay bashing, literally, especially in bar situations. There is such a thing as gay hunting, where people of certain orientations are lured into dangerous situations. He needs to be cautious about any encounter and already know the person and feel safe with them.

NP.

The warnings about London from a PP are coming from a caring place. And the sad reality is there are areas, and specific communities, within London who are not at all tolerant of LGTBQIA+ people. Your some shouldn’t go naively to London expecting tolerance from everyone there; certain areas quite truly are “no-go zones,” especially for LGTBQIA+, but also for others, such as straight women who don’t adhere to certain dress / “modesty” codes for clothing or coverings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Condoms, condoms, condoms!

And BJ as much as possible lol

[Anonymous]

Tell him to use protection.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I would advise him not to come out. Honestly, I would say he probably is better off just being straight.

[Anonymous]

Some of the responses on this thread are idiotic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be brutally honest, OP, I would tell him to be very discreet at first until he's more attuned to his surroundings. I grew up in Scotland. I know things have changed for the better, but there's still such a thing as gay bashing, literally, especially in bar situations. There is such a thing as gay hunting, where people of certain orientations are lured into dangerous situations. He needs to be cautious about any encounter and already know the person and feel safe with them.

Does this happen in London?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be brutally honest, OP, I would tell him to be very discreet at first until he's more attuned to his surroundings. I grew up in Scotland. I know things have changed for the better, but there's still such a thing as gay bashing, literally, especially in bar situations. There is such a thing as gay hunting, where people of certain orientations are lured into dangerous situations. He needs to be cautious about any encounter and already know the person and feel safe with them.

Does this happen in London?

Certain neighborhoods in London are extremely intolerant of LGTBQIA+ people. It’s easy to accidentally wander into one of these areas at first, as someone new to London.

Over time, the OP’s son will learn which areas are no-go neighborhoods, for him.