What is the threshold for being considered cheating ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you would not do it in front of or tell your spouse then it is cheating

And if I would do it in front of or tell my spouse then it is NOT cheating?

[Anonymous]

Ejaculation or climax

[Anonymous]

Emotional affair and confiding

[Anonymous]

all stop cheating or divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holding hands? Flirting ? Kissing ? sex? Or sexting?

All of those maters but what in practical terms would trigger a breakup? Don’t tell me any of those are the same, because it’s not true. Sex is the worst offense, but some of the other could be not so bad. What do you think?

All do those are cheating if in an exclusive relationship with someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:all stop cheating or divorce.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What did you do?

I kissed three people in a recent business trip but no sex. From the three people only one was actually good. The other two just meh.

What kind of "business" are you in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holding hands? Flirting ? Kissing ? sex? Or sexting?

All of those maters but what in practical terms would trigger a breakup? Don’t tell me any of those are the same, because it’s not true. Sex is the worst offense, but some of the other could be not so bad. What do you think?

Behavior you would be inclined to hide from your partner. That’s the threshold.

[Anonymous]

Did genitals get wet?

[Anonymous]

If it results in pregnancy. Otherwise, just being cordial.

[Anonymous]

Penetration of anything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Flirting I think is the only one that sounds petty. We all laugh and make conversation with the opposite sex. Context would matter on that e.g., private texts vs just making conversation at an event.

Emotional affairs are a type of cheating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Flirting I think is the only one that sounds petty. We all laugh and make conversation with the opposite sex. Context would matter on that e.g., private texts vs just making conversation at an event.

Emotional affairs are a type of cheating

This is so dumb. No one ever got an emotional STD or an emotional unintended pregnancy.

There is not even a coherent definition of "emotional affair" beyond, "it hurts my feelings that my husband prefers the attention of this non-shrewish woman."

[Anonymous]

I think that what each of us considers cheating is largely going to be personal. Some things will feel like cheating to almost everyone (sex). Some things are maybe not boundary-crossing actions but still represent betrayal. Being very legalistic about what counts and what doesn't is counterproductive.

I would say that an emotional affair is cheating, whether it ever becomes physical or not. The emotional betrayal is there. If my partner developed a romantic emotional intimacy with another woman, it would really not matter to me, feelings-wise, if he slept with her. The betrayal would exist in his intentions and feelings, not his behaviors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:don't justify OP's cheating.

OP you are a cheater. How does it feel to have no integrity left? How does it feel to be a liar and a cheat?

In this trip it didn’t feel good because of the people I met, but hopefully there is better luck next time.