How to survive a toxic boss

[Anonymous]

I have this boss too, and I’m finally shifting positions soon after over two years of misery. It is widely known throughout my organization that she is terrible, can’t get along with anyone, and never should have been put in a management position. Her management acknowledges the problem, but she’s such a bully that they are scared to do anything about it except giving mild feedback that has no effect. I regret putting up with it as long as I did. I wasted two years of my life dreading work every day. If you can get out, do it now.

[Anonymous]

OMG we have the exact same boss except mine is a man. Every day i feel i am going to quit on the spot bc it is insane. I am 48 and have had many bosses including very senior CEO/ CMO people so it's not like I have no comparison. We are in a new era where workplace toxicity is no longer a liability, apparently.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I'm the best case scenario. I worked for her for a year and a half, she hated me, put me on the chopping block for layoffs, and I got $50K to never have to deal with her again. I had a new job before the severance check was even cashed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leave the position. They probably know she is toxic but refuse to do anything about it.

She either does the dirty work of the C suite or is someone's girlfriend.

Ding ding ding

[Anonymous]

So the promotion wasn't worth it.

[Anonymous]

Get out!! You will never believe how much better you will feel when you get out.

[Anonymous]

Start using AI for everything. Record the conversations with Granola and then ask the AI for specific outputs based on exactly what she said.

This is how I deal with my toxic boss and it’s working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Start using AI for everything. Record the conversations with Granola and then ask the AI for specific outputs based on exactly what she said.

This is how I deal with my toxic boss and it’s working.

haha i did this with my toxic boss and he said it was 'bad'. Which is too funny bc it was based on his inputs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work for a large organization and was recently asked to move over to lead a team in a different part of the company than where I have worked in for the past 14 years. It was a promotion and I knew the reputation of the person who oversees the function that would be my new boss was that she can be tough, but I have worked for tough bosses before.

Let’s just say she is much worse than imagined and I am now contemplating leaving the company because I don’t know how I will do this for a couple years.

She is very respected at the organization despite her reputation for being a bully, and since joining I found out several people in the role before me have left the team and company because of her. I have worked my way up at this company and really don’t want to leave, but HR has been useless for others and they won’t move/transfer me for at least 2 years (that’s the policy when you take a new role).

She is blunt, rude and condescending, gives very unclear direction and then is upset that we didn’t deliver exactly what she wanted, she is too hands-off/unavailable yet a micromanager at the same time about certain things and expects everything to be done in 30 seconds.

Any tips to survive this for a couple years and then hope to be able to move elsewhere in the company? Or do I just look to jump ship because it’s not worth it to take the abuse?

And no, highly unlikely she is going anywhere.

I worked for someone like this and quit after 6 months. I had no job lined up. It was a government job that I had accepted from outside. I was devastated. But she was destroying my life. It all worked out in the end. I did get another job after unemployment for four months.