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Anonymous
| The AI obits are also INCORRECTLY stating this tragedy occurred on campus. It did not. |
Anonymous
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Because I worry about it happening again to a
kid I know. I wish I had read a post like this during the years where I was dismissing my own concerns and intuitions and trusting that a school admin would never lie to a parent. |
Anonymous
School admin, private or public, deserves the benefit of the doubt, but not blind trust, same with everyone in your life. Your family’s experience at Brearley was negative, and you moved your daughter to a school that’s a better fit. This happens at all schools, and it’s good that you took action. Your experience provides another perspective for other families so sharing it adds value. When families researching a school search for Brearley your comments will come up. But your posts are not adding any new information beyond what you’ve already shared. In fact repeating the same things will make others question the validity of the statements and discount what you’d like them to know. You’ve done your part of sharing your experience and warning others about the school. Hope you can move on and share positive experiences about your daughter’s current school to benefit other families in search of the best education for their children. |
Anonymous
Fair 
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Anonymous
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I’m the poster who said OP is disgusting. I’m not gatekeeping. Chat all you want about somebody else’s tragedy—obviously a tragedy that has nothing to do with you or else you’d know the details and wouldn’t have to ask here.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion. And mine is that you are disgusting and threads like this are tragedy porn. I never forget that there are real people involved and real people who know them and are hurting, and it’s not beyond possibility that they will read this thread and it won’t exactly help them feel better. |
Anonymous
| Imagine you are a parent, actively grieving and suffering through this tragedy, and learn that people are passively talking about your child’s death and the potential causes on an anonymous gossip forum. How would you feel? |
Anonymous
| This is tragic and disturbing for a lot of us, my heart goes out to the family. Privacy of course must be respected -- and since we know very little it's natural to wonder what the root causes were, especially for someone seemingly doing so wonderfully. I know mental health issues are complex and not always tied to life's circumstances and still it feels incomprehensible -- amazing academic and artistic accomplishments, tight-knit family and right at what should have been the time to rejoice in all that... You almost wonder if some big piece of the puzzle is missing. You may think it's inappropriate to express this in writing, but that's what many of us are thinking. |
Anonymous
| We are the adults, as is everyone who works at the school. It’s totally within bounds to share data points and question what could have been done differently in the hope it will never happen again. Dalton, for example, did this post a terrible incident with a kid in the early 2000s. A kid is dead who shouldn’t be — it’s okay to wonder how anyone, including the school, might have done better by them, including the paid professionals who missed the warning signs this girl was in trouble. |
Anonymous
Exactly. People who truly care and already in the know, in the inner circle. |
Anonymous
the ai obits are disgusting |
Anonymous
i don't know why you are putting so much responsibility on the school. |
Anonymous
i don't think going to DC Urban Moms would be high on my list if i was a parent whose daughter just died. |
Anonymous
Do I have to report you again? Can you try a little harder to help yourself from posts about this specific situation that malign the school? |
Anonymous
She seems to need psychiatric help herself. It is really remarkable. |
Anonymous
There are always more sides to any story, but I find the lack of feeling of responsibility at some of these schools toward their (in some cases) very young children and their families concerning. You hear all these lectures about community, etc — but we lose one of our own, and it’s just, eh, what can you do?
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