What happened at Brearley?

[Anonymous]

Can anyone confirm what happened at Brearley today? All I have heard is that a student was found unresponsive/ passed away on campus.

So so sad. 😞

[Anonymous]

My child’s school (another TT) sent an email confirming a student has passed away.

Such tragic news and I hear and my thoughts are with Brearley and the wider community <3

[Anonymous]

I don’t really think it’s “disgusting” to ask. There is a lot of lies sent through social media and through the grapevine. The person above isn’t even asking how it happened, just to confirm. Especially in this world of rumors and social media.

[Anonymous]

That is absolutely devastating. Sending love to their family and the entire Brearley community.

[Anonymous]

So sad. Sending hugs to the B community here.

[Anonymous]

Very devastating. Regis, Chapin, Brearley - there needs to be a mental health reckoning.

[Anonymous]

it's been a hard year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very devastating. Regis, Chapin, Brearley - there needs to be a mental health reckoning.

This!! I think instead of people getting so mad that someone is asking to verify that something (we really don’t know what happened) happened since we are in the land of social media, we should be advocating for better mental health counseling for our children.

Whatever happened is a tragedy, and I didn’t get from the originally poster that they were asking for an “autopsy” or “what exactly happened,” they were asking IF something really did happen. No one needs the details, but to try and brush a tragedy under the rug like nothing happened is also a tragedy.

I also don’t think these angry parents here are understanding that all the private schools (at least the ones in NYC) got notification of this incident directly from B. So B is not brushing it under the rug either.

My heart goes out to all of the Brearley family and especially to the family of the young girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very devastating. Regis, Chapin, Brearley - there needs to be a mental health reckoning.

This!! I think instead of people getting so mad that someone is asking to verify that something (we really don’t know what happened) happened since we are in the land of social media, we should be advocating for better mental health counseling for our children.

Whatever happened is a tragedy, and I didn’t get from the originally poster that they were asking for an “autopsy” or “what exactly happened,” they were asking IF something really did happen. No one needs the details, but to try and brush a tragedy under the rug like nothing happened is also a tragedy.

I also don’t think these angry parents here are understanding that all the private schools (at least the ones in NYC) got notification of this incident directly from B. So B is not brushing it under the rug either.

My heart goes out to all of the Brearley family and especially to the family of the young girl.

Teen suicide is pervasive and horrible. Obviously people are going to be curious. But blaming the school toxic culture, talking about a reckoning etc. is gross when there is no information whatsoever, or even any data to indicate that the rates at particular schools or types of school have any statistical significance.

I’ve seen this before in cases where I know the family and the story that goes around is just not true. And from the little I know of this case - a student in senior spring admitted to an amazing college - doesn’t scream out toxic culture. If there are institutional considerations of course they should look at that, but these lazy assumptions about someone else’s tragedy you know nothing about is gross.

[Anonymous]

There is so much talk about collective responsibility and hard and brave conversations in these places, but when it’s one of their own, it’s “oh well, what can you do?”

[Anonymous]

Private schools notify each other when this happens so we heard about the incidents at Regis, Chopin and now Brearley. But does this happen at public schools often as well? What about 2T or 3T privates?

If this seems to happen more often at TT, then perhaps the culture there needs to be examined. Otherwise the question of culture seems premature.

[Anonymous]

I found some of the manufactured fake obits. I assume it is the real name but they are really scary and creepy. I feel horrible for the family. But I also think that having the truth out there is better than having rumors fester. You can't pretend it didn't happen. I'm not saying to place blame as no situation is that simple and that is a horrible thing to do. But acknowledge it happened. May her memory be a blessing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found some of the manufactured fake obits. I assume it is the real name but they are really scary and creepy. I feel horrible for the family. But I also think that having the truth out there is better than having rumors fester. You can't pretend it didn't happen. I'm not saying to place blame as no situation is that simple and that is a horrible thing to do. But acknowledge it happened. May her memory be a blessing.

Me too - her name should not be public. The fake obits are gross.

[Anonymous]

The AI driven obit thing is crazy and gross. I have no idea how that is legal or why search engines allow them to show

[Anonymous]

Also, I don’t know what happened to the other mother on the other thread. Someone only told me about this board when we were despondent this morning about this recent loss. You see these kids at drop off, etc from the time they are little. You watch them grow — it’s a hideous loss.