Do you shop for your husband? Where?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Funny, I'm a female partner in a law firm, and somehow I can shop for my own clothes. I do think my DH should shop for and buy his own clothes; after all, I buy all of the childrens' clothes.

Oh, don't get your panties in a twist. I'm a lawyer too. This isn't about gender politics; it's just about doing something nice for your spouse. Hey, I can pump my own gas, but DH --and teen DS -- do it for me. It's about kindness and caring. (Also, I have told DS that it will help him attract girls.)

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If I had a ton of money, I'd get him Thomas Pink shirts. But I don't. I like the way the fitted shirts from Express Men look. Most of the dept store brands are too boxy looking, especially for a slim man. Some of them have "fitted" styles which are better, but the Express shirts are almost always nice.

[Anonymous]

Costco's no-wrinkle shirts seem as good as the BB ones, but a quarter of the price.

[Anonymous]

DH can shop for his own clothes but left to his own devices wears the same clothes to shreds and is oblivious to the fact that his garments are old, stained, worn out and unattractive, and no longer fit him. Thus I shop for him.

He doesn't need to wear suits. I buy at Macy's, Brooks, and online.

[Anonymous]

Macys, Marshalls, and Express. Often I will buy multiple shirts bc he can be picky and then he can return the ones he doesnt like. My mom has the most success buying DH shirts/ties that he really likes. She almost always get them from Marshalls.

[Anonymous]

I'm with the law firm partner above. Really? You shop for your husbands? For those that do, are you SAH? Sure, if I'm shopping for myself I might swing by the mens section to see if there's anything for DH, but it would never occur to either of us that I would be responsible for buying his basic clothes. What did he do before he married you? If he looks like ass, then that's his problem. What if what I bought didn't fit? I assume you have to take it back?
The last thing I need to to start keeping track of how many slacks/dress shirts he has and which ones look worn out and need to be replaced. DH can (and does) do that on his own.


Seriously? That is so retro.

[Anonymous]

Scrap the Perry, Nautica, and outlet shopping.

If you're both clueless about shopping, you need to ask salespeople for help. Go to these places and ask the salespeople for help and he will look good and fit in with the other guys at his firm:

Nordstrom-get suits and regular work clothes here. Go during the twice a year mens sale or the anniversary sale (look in the customer service section on their website to find the sales dates).

Jos A Bank/Brooks Brothers-go here for regular work clothes. Jos always has sales so don't buy anything unless it's on sale.

J Crew-casual wear and work wear (if his office isn't super-formal).

Please don't listen to the posters who say to buy clothes at Marshalls, Costco, etc. Men at firms often talk about where they get their clothes from and you don't want people thinking he's clueless and cheap.

[Anonymous]

There's a store where you go and try on different husbands? That seems ideal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Scrap the Perry, Nautica, and outlet shopping.

If you're both clueless about shopping, you need to ask salespeople for help. Go to these places and ask the salespeople for help and he will look good and fit in with the other guys at his firm:

Nordstrom-get suits and regular work clothes here. Go during the twice a year mens sale or the anniversary sale (look in the customer service section on their website to find the sales dates).

Jos A Bank/Brooks Brothers-go here for regular work clothes. Jos always has sales so don't buy anything unless it's on sale.

J Crew-casual wear and work wear (if his office isn't super-formal).

Please don't listen to the posters who say to buy clothes at Marshalls, Costco, etc. Men at firms often talk about where they get their clothes from and you don't want people thinking he's clueless and cheap.

Just asked DH, who's been a BigLaw partner for over 10 years, "Hey, have you ever had a conversation with another partner about clothes shopping?". His response: "Are you on DCUM again? When you figure out what those people are smoking, let me know."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Scrap the Perry, Nautica, and outlet shopping.

If you're both clueless about shopping, you need to ask salespeople for help. Go to these places and ask the salespeople for help and he will look good and fit in with the other guys at his firm:

Nordstrom-get suits and regular work clothes here. Go during the twice a year mens sale or the anniversary sale (look in the customer service section on their website to find the sales dates).

Jos A Bank/Brooks Brothers-go here for regular work clothes. Jos always has sales so don't buy anything unless it's on sale.

J Crew-casual wear and work wear (if his office isn't super-formal).

Please don't listen to the posters who say to buy clothes at Marshalls, Costco, etc. Men at firms often talk about where they get their clothes from and you don't want people thinking he's clueless and cheap.

This is total BS. DH is a fed atty, and when men wear obviously expensive clothes (e.g., bespoke suits), they are mocked. There is a humorous patrician pride among the Harvard and Yale JDs who work for the gov't in wearing off the rack suits and shopping at Costco.

[Anonymous]

13:27, her husband works at a firm, not the government. So the fact that govt attorneys wear Costco suits does not have any bearing on what her husband should wear.

[Anonymous]

DH shops for himself, but I know he's found that the salespeople at Nordstrom are extremely helpful. He's in IT so doesn't need to buy a lot of suits and can use the advice and guidance when he does. They are also good if your DH is hard to fit.

If your DH hates to shop, I think it's important to go somewhere where he will be made to feel comfortable and his choices can be validated by someone who knows men's clothes. (Not me!) So I recommend Norstroms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm with the law firm partner above. Really? You shop for your husbands? For those that do, are you SAH? Sure, if I'm shopping for myself I might swing by the mens section to see if there's anything for DH, but it would never occur to either of us that I would be responsible for buying his basic clothes. What did he do before he married you? If he looks like ass, then that's his problem. What if what I bought didn't fit? I assume you have to take it back?
The last thing I need to to start keeping track of how many slacks/dress shirts he has and which ones look worn out and need to be replaced. DH can (and does) do that on his own.


Seriously? That is so retro.

I'm an attorney (not a partner yet!) and I do most of my DH's clothes shopping. He hates doing it and I don't mind, and I prefer the way he looks when I choose the clothes. By the same token, I despise doing car-related stuff--getting the oil changed, going to the carwash, pumping gas--so DH does those things for me. He cooks, I do the dishes. He drops off the drycleaning, I take the dog to the groomer. When one of us is swamped at work, the other one picks up the slack. This has nothing to do with gender roles and nobody is oppressed. We just take care of each other. It's nice, you should try it.

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100%. Brooks Bothers and Jos. Banks. Churches' and Allen Edmond's shoes. I detest cheap or overly stylish (foppish) clothing on a guy. I cannot stand jewelry on on a man (other than a wristwatch).

Understated classic is always in style and always completely sexy.

I am also a liberal Democrat Episcopalian who drives an 8 year old American car.

That is all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to Target to get 4 bags of boxers for DH because his ass smells bad at night

Clean underwear over a smelly bod. Herg. Good for you for trying to deal though. Over the weekend I heard some of DH's friends openly discussing the "whoresbath" that they do with the diaper wipe sometimes.

Marriage is weird.