Should I wait about 10 years?
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Anonymous
+1. I cannot even imagine the drama of bringing a new life partner into a 14 year old’s life. But really, you have to be very, very careful here. Blended families are super difficult. And the statistics are that stepdads and stepbrothers can be difficult to assess from a predator perspective. Being a stepmom isnt a particularly great role either. You need to really get a handle on who you think these people are before bringing the kids into the mix. |
Anonymous
Is your best friend married with kids? |
Anonymous
No you don’t. Most women fare better without men. Have some fun if you like (but be VERY safe) but a relationship is a horrible idea. |
Anonymous
What do you need a man for? You can take care of yourself and raise your child as a single mom. Stop thinking that you need a man to be fulfilled in life. A man is going to ruin your life. Didn’t you already go through this with your ex? |
Anonymous
+1 I divorced at 42 with kids who were five and eight. I’m now 48 and I would never have a serious relationship having my kids. It is too messy. have some fun on the side and that is it. I think it’s absolutely stupid to put kids and dating together. |
Anonymous
| NP. You deserve to have a companion who loves and respects you, and to have your kids see their mom treated with love and respect. If you are ready for a new relationship, start dating. |
Anonymous
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How many children do you have total??
Sure there are some men who will not want to date a woman w/young children but there are also plenty that wouldn’t have an issue w/that at all. I wouldn’t want to wait until I turn fifty to date - - I think it is okay to casually date now - - just make sure your no.#1 priority in life are your kids. ❤️ |
Anonymous
| I would date now. I would not introduce a new man to your child unless you've been together more than a year. |
Anonymous
| She wants you |
Anonymous
I wouldn't date if I already put a child through a bad marriage, a divorce and a broken family. This shouldn't be about what men want, it should be about what you want for your child, you being distracted and random men involved in life, isn't likely to help them but only you can decide what works for you. |
Anonymous
THIS |
Anonymous
This. The pickings are slim at 40 and you might as well get started now. |
Anonymous
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The problem is that someone who is okay with you having a young kid might also have a young kid. The last thing I'd want is to date a man with children still living at home. I did it once. He had a 16-yr-old and a 21-yr-old. Both daughters. His ex-wife was all up in his business since they still had raising the kids in common. And his ex was a hot mess. (Lots of skanky boyfriends and would move in with these random men and then get kicked out.) They both indulged their kids in ways that I would never tolerate. (Didn't insist on college in exchange for living expenses post-HS and didn't insist on decent grades from the one still in HS.)
I ended up with a man who has kids from a prior marriage. His ex is also a hot mess. But his two sons are very normal and successful adults who are fully launched and have young families of their own now. My DC really enjoys him being in our lives. He is a resource to my DC (career and school advice) but doesn't try to tell him how to live his life. My advice is to wait until your kids are away at college. |
Anonymous
How old is your partner if this two young sons already have families ? Is he in his late 60s? There very uncommon for 50s men |
Anonymous
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My partner is mid-60s. He married and had his first DC while in his mid-20s.
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