Forms and sole custody

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

There are lots of weird assumptions here. First, the speed to which posters here jump to the idea that a parent who doesn't see their kids, either because they don't choose to (this situation), or because the court ordered it, should be absolved of all financial responsibility is absurd.

In this case, the custodial parent is male, a family member of mine. He's asking my advice because I've been single parenting longer, but my situation is different because my kids have a restraining order and zero contact.

What does his parenting plan say? Mine says both parents are to be listed as emergency contacts.

I have never seen a school form where it would make sense to list a parent as an emergency contact. Emergency contacts are who you call when the people listed as parents don’t respond.

I think gender is part of the issue here. If there is a mom listed on the form, even if you write “call dad first” people will call mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

There are lots of weird assumptions here. First, the speed to which posters here jump to the idea that a parent who doesn't see their kids, either because they don't choose to (this situation), or because the court ordered it, should be absolved of all financial responsibility is absurd.

In this case, the custodial parent is male, a family member of mine. He's asking my advice because I've been single parenting longer, but my situation is different because my kids have a restraining order and zero contact.

What does his parenting plan say? Mine says both parents are to be listed as emergency contacts.

I have never seen a school form where it would make sense to list a parent as an emergency contact. Emergency contacts are who you call when the people listed as parents don’t respond.

I think gender is part of the issue here. If there is a mom listed on the form, even if you write “call dad first” people will call mom.

The OP specifically asked about listing a parent as an emergency contact.

[Anonymous]

I was always required to list my child other parent, and to make sure they received things like report cards. Yes I had sole legal.

Tell this parent to consult their parenting plan and their lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

There are lots of weird assumptions here. First, the speed to which posters here jump to the idea that a parent who doesn't see their kids, either because they don't choose to (this situation), or because the court ordered it, should be absolved of all financial responsibility is absurd.

In this case, the custodial parent is male, a family member of mine. He's asking my advice because I've been single parenting longer, but my situation is different because my kids have a restraining order and zero contact.

What does his parenting plan say? Mine says both parents are to be listed as emergency contacts.

I have never seen a school form where it would make sense to list a parent as an emergency contact. Emergency contacts are who you call when the people listed as parents don’t respond.

I think gender is part of the issue here. If there is a mom listed on the form, even if you write “call dad first” people will call mom.

The OP specifically asked about listing a parent as an emergency contact.

OP here:

I asked about listing the NCP parent as a parent and said that in an emergency, if they couldn’t reach Dad (custodial parent) it would be better to call the people that would be listed as emergency contact than the mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was always required to list my child other parent, and to make sure they received things like report cards. Yes I had sole legal.

Tell this parent to consult their parenting plan and their lawyer.

Did you have sole physical?