Constant calls home

[Anonymous]

Since you posted on this forum is it safe to assume she has an IEP or 504 plan? If so can you call for an IEP meeting and add the seat preference, and ask for positive reinforcement when she isn’t talking so she can recognize she is doing a good job controlling her impulse to talk during class? And maybe you do a chart of excellence for not receiving calls home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 16 year old constantly talks in class, and receives office referrals. They call home, and usually leave a message, and it happens constantly. It feels overbearing, and like an issue that I shouldn’t be receiving calls about multiple times a week for. Shes a junior, and is a super social kid. She has been a talker since she was little, and has never had any behavioral or academic issues. It’s her personality to just talk, talk, talk, and I feel like at this age/grade level, they shouldn’t constantly be calling me about this. It’s usually two or three teachers, that do most of the calling home. It’s the end of the year, so my daughter is excited, and the calls have increased. Would it be okay for me to ask her teachers not to call? Is there a better approach to this?

This is just not true: she is having a major behavioral issue now, OP. You need to address this, now.

I can't believe you are asking if you should request that the teachers stop calling. Your kid must be so annoyingly distractive to others if multiple teachers are actually calling you so often because if it were just that she is "a talker", they wouldn't be flagging it as such an issue that they need to phone you. Step up and be a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s rare for teachers to take the time to call home about something like this. So it’s got to really be a problem. I can tell that you don’t think it’s a big deal, but imagine if you were at work delivering a presentation and one person talked constantly through it every time. Your daughter also is going to need to be in the work world at some point and needs to get this under control. The constant talking is also interrupting other kids’ ability to learn.

You should ask for a meeting with these teachers and your kid and an administrator and find out exactly what is going on and when and how often. Then a plan needs to be put in place to improve the behavior. Surely the school has a behavior expert who can help.

You show support by rewarding your kid at home for improvement and consequencing problems.

If she talks when instructions are being given, she stands in the hall for that part. Is she blurting out related comments, or making jokes, or asking questions without raising her hand? There is a lot of investigation to do here.

She doesn’t talk during instruction, but won’t raise her hand, etc. During times where students are allowed to talk, she talks a lot, and that’s what they call me about. All but one of the teachers who regularly, calls teach electives. The other one is her lab based science class. I can schedule a meeting to discuss this.

Well this is a mystery.... I think you should talk with them to figure out why they perceive this as a problem to call home about. Good luck OP.

[Anonymous]

People that talk constantly are annoying as hell. You need to nip this in the bud.

[Anonymous]

sounds like unmedicated ADHD, when my 17 year old dd forget to take her meds she will talk non stop, get in trouble and referrals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:sounds like unmedicated ADHD, when my 17 year old dd forget to take her meds she will talk non stop, get in trouble and referrals.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She doesn’t talk during instruction, but won’t raise her hand, etc. During times where students are allowed to talk, she talks a lot, and that’s what they call me about. All but one of the teachers who regularly, calls teach electives. The other one is her lab based science class. I can schedule a meeting to discuss this.

OP what is there to discuss? Your DD is having impulse control difficulties. Stimulant meds help with this. Some non-stimulant meds help with this. Strategic "preferential" seating helps with this. Exercises to help with self-awareness or mindfulness can help with this. I would skip the meeting and just get started on these.