If a guy says he visits Thailand or Colombia

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Anonymous wrote:My grandmother who lives in Europe (with lots of direct flights to Thailand) likes to visit there along with her friends. Should we assume my aging granny and her elderly widow friends are sex tourists?

I’ve seen plenty of old white men walking around with very young people in parts of Thailand, so who knows what your grandma and friends are up to.

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Don’t fly Avianca, they suk

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Ivory Coast good?

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He visitS?? Yea, definitely not just for the beaches !

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, what a way to judge an entire country. At most, 3% of the economy is tied to sex work. It's a lovely country with many traditions, excellent food, and a "land of smiles" lifestyle. It's also a great place to enjoy nice weather and relaxing for a reasonable price and with great service.

Nobody is judging Thailand on the whole.

The question is whether or not an American man wanting to travel there is a red flag. And under a lot of circumstances, probably most, it is.

[Anonymous]

Yes red flag if he’s gone more than once but only has been there with other men or solo. He pays prostitutes for sex. Depending on which country it may even be child prostitution. Even in Colombia there are a lot of middle class, every day women who have no interest in throwing themselves at a man just because he’s an American. He’s going in order to pay to play.

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I would say, “what do you like about it?” And go from there. IME, guys for whom this is a red flag won’t be able to resist spouting off some nonsense about the inferiority of American women and feminism.

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Anonymous wrote:Is that a red flag? Wondering because a guy I've been talking to says that he wants to visit these countries and I've also heard of some people in government. I work with who men who I work with, who say that they visited these countries and these countries are just known for their party scene and prostitutes I think. So would it be a red flag for you or has it been a red flag for you?

Several people in my DH's company go there regularly, not because they want to but because they have to do their job. He doesn't need to but if he was required to do so, it wouldn't raise a red flag for me because I've known him all of his adult life.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, what a way to judge an entire country. At most, 3% of the economy is tied to sex work. It's a lovely country with many traditions, excellent food, and a "land of smiles" lifestyle. It's also a great place to enjoy nice weather and relaxing for a reasonable price and with great service.

Nobody is judging Thailand on the whole.

The question is whether or not an American man wanting to travel there is a red flag. And under a lot of circumstances, probably most, it is.

Unless he works for government or some global company in an international role supporting those areas.

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If those were the only vacations he took, I would be raising the yellow flag. Obviously this doesn't include for job related reasons.

[Anonymous]

Ask your friends at the state department for the top 10 list of countries involved with human trafficking, sex workers, mail order brides, and extortion or money scams.

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Yes, this would raise at least an orange flag for me.

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Drugs and prostitutes

[Anonymous]

We visited Colombia recently to visit friends who are much younger. Whenever my husband was out alone with our young female friend he was definitely given the side eye…to the point that he insisted that either I or her boyfriend accompanied them. Pretty indicative of an unfortunate aspect of tourism at least in Medellin.

On the bright side, we had a wonderful time and I highly recommend. And Avianca was just fine. An easy flight from Miami.

[Anonymous]

Hey OP, I have an idea - why don't you grow up and just ask him what's the deal? Crowd sourcing ideas from DCUM seems immature.