At what point do diverging world views lead to a friendship ending?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP: most of what drives my desire to continue the friendship is our lengthy, shared history. We do have a connection. I enjoy spending time with her, but I do not enjoy being around her husband. If I had to guess, her husband actively disagrees with her being friends with me but she persists nonetheless.

I have sometimes felt excluded/selectively included in her life: I will visit during the day but they/she doesn’t invite our family over for dinners or their kids birthday parties etc. (I always invite them to these kinds of things.)

I’m not really sure what my question is but I do find her worldview to be both incredibly privileged and also lacking perspective, which is to say, I don’t agree with her worldview. I guarantee she doesn’t agree with mine. It’s just crazy to observe someone with whom I had so much in common move further and further to the fringe, with no end in sight.

And yes I said trousers, I am a real person. What would you prefer? Slacks?

Pants. Like a normal person. Are you old or not a native speaker?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Trousers? WTF. You are not a real person.

I was thinking British English.

Growing up in a med size southern city like suburbs of Atlanta?

[Anonymous]

You can decrease the frequency of communication without ending your relationship.

[Anonymous]

I’d let her know she can contact you if she ever needs help. Other than that, keep her at a distance.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she's joined a cult which are usually rife with abuse and her husband is controlling and likely abusive for that reason alone id keep the lines of communication open. If you still enjoy her company engage with her attend things you wish and invite her if you want her. I generally don't cut people off unless their behavior is egregious. Just accept that at least for now you aren't as close as you once we're.

[Anonymous]

She clearly values your friendship and it sounds like you do still have stuff to talk about. Just do stuff with her and not family stuff where you have to deal with the husband.