4 people welcoming a baby...

[Anonymous]

Your friend is an attention seeking weirdo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you really never heard of polyamory? Widen your mind. Not everyone’s like you

Until now, I've only heard of polyamory with 3 people where it benefitted the husband more than the wife and promptly ended when he tried to leave her for one of the women. They somehow are still married.

[Anonymous]

Where do you send the baby gift?

[Anonymous]

I don’t know, but I’d just say “congratulations” & otherwise MYOB.

I had a friend in college who was raised in a different environment. Not sure what they called it, especially at that time, but it was basically 2 husband-wife legally married couples who raised 4 kids together. The moms each had 2 pregnancies but not sure whose bio dad was whose (did not ask). They all lived together & all kids considered all the adults “their parents”. Friend said the adults…ahem..shared intimacy etc. She confessed all of this to me one time while drunk lol. One set of parents made the more “public” appearances for each kid and the others presented as close family friends. We are not THAT old (nearing 50) but things were different even then.

Friend was always happy and well adjusted. Still is. Successful, happily married etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend just post that 4 people (2 men, 2 women) are welcoming a baby. One of women is carrying the baby and the babies last name is man1-man2.

I'm like...what? I don't understand...

A few years ago she posted that her and the two guys bought a house together but no mention of the other girl.

Any thoughts on what that's all about?

It's okay to think it is weird. It is also okay to not understand and MYOB. If you are close enough friends with these people you will ultimately find out more information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
MYOB
Just be happy for them.

Exactly.

That is the point of the post.

Who are you to judge/analyze this blessing’s pedigree?

[Anonymous]

They might need all 4 people to pay mortgage / rent and baby expenses right now. I'm not judging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a degree in sociology. I think it really helped me think deeper about social norms. Yes, in our society this is super weird, and you have the right to be curious. But if you take the time to think deeper, you'll see that this is not a big deal in the grand scheme of things.

What matters most is that that child is loved. There are so many foster children and children who are in group homes, or in homes where they are neglected. Those are the people we should judge the most.

I am personally open to polyamory, not exactly this dynamic but honestly it would be kind of nice having 4 people to help raise a child, especially as a bi woman it would be kind of fun. The kids may have a different viewpoint on life than you want them to have, but they will be okay and will make their own choices as adults as to what they want their family to look like.

I agree that polyamory seems nice in principle. Unfortunately the only way humans seem to be able to do it without being messy, is if, men (and religion) are in complete of the power structure of the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
MYOB
Just be happy for them.

I'm actually most offended by the fact that the baby gets the two guys last names in this situation. You'd think if you are living non-traditionally you wouldn't do that.

Why would you be offended? This has literally nothing to do with you and no impact on you.

100%!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend just post that 4 people (2 men, 2 women) are welcoming a baby. One of women is carrying the baby and the babies last name is man1-man2.

I'm like...what? I don't understand...

A few years ago she posted that her and the two guys bought a house together but no mention of the other girl.

Any thoughts on what that's all about?

Unconventional and unhealthy dynamics but whatever people need to survive. There is undoubtedly a leader in this small cult and rest are lost souls.

[Anonymous]

If she’s your friend how do you not already know the situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you really never heard of polyamory? Widen your mind. Not everyone’s like you

Until now, I've only heard of polyamory with 3 people where it benefitted the husband more than the wife and promptly ended when he tried to leave her for one of the women. They somehow are still married.

Maybe top guy is bisexual or impotent hence other guy and then his girl were brought in. Lot of creepy set ups in the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend just post that 4 people (2 men, 2 women) are welcoming a baby. One of women is carrying the baby and the babies last name is man1-man2.

I'm like...what? I don't understand...

A few years ago she posted that her and the two guys bought a house together but no mention of the other girl.

Any thoughts on what that's all about?

Unconventional and unhealthy dynamics but whatever people need to survive. There is undoubtedly a leader in this small cult and rest are lost souls.

+1. There always is.

[Anonymous]

Definitely weird, but whatever about the adults. I feel bad for the kid/s of this crazy situation.

[Anonymous]

Wait - you’re friends with this woman and never talked about her relationship?! That’s so strange - it’s like stage 2 or 3 of female bonding!