Married 30+ years? Answer this question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Politics
Sports
Crime
Music
Movie
Series
Our day

Pretty much this. We tend to start talking about 1 thing and then it just kind of goes from there. Talking about music may lead into talk about 10 other things.

[Anonymous]

We also talk a lot about stuff we are doing in the house, talk about family members who are sick or having a baby or whatever other gossip is going on, plus our friends and upcoming travel, etc.

[Anonymous]

Second question:

Are you happily married? Or do you wish you had never gotten married or ended things years ago?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married 46 years. We talk about current events, art, science, nature, books, etc. We are also very comfortable in silence.

Married "only" 35 years and we are like this. Everything but can be nothing. We are not forced to talk but when we do, we enjoy talking to each other. We are both introverts, btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you and your spouse talk about?
Over dinner?
In the car? Or whatever, wherever..

That is not about your kids, house repair issues, the pets.
Or, do you not really talk, and why is that?

Married 34 years & together 38 years. We talk about everything. First, by taking kids/house repair/pets off the table, that's a good 30% of our conversation, to be honest. But we love mulling over these things, as we have four grown kids who provide ample discussion fodder. Our dog has got to be half of that 30%. She's a joy.

But for the other 70% - let's see. Our finances, my mom, trips to take, current events, movies, books, what we see on bike rides and window shopping, our aches and pains (this is probably a good 5%), philosophical questions about life, the universe, and everything. Tonight we'll go out to dinner and have a talk about this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Second question:

Are you happily married? Or do you wish you had never gotten married or ended things years ago?

PP (w/35 years, didn't see your second question), yes, we are happily married. We were lucky to find each other (or at least I feel that way).

[Anonymous]

PP above with the 15% dog discussion - very happily married. He is an incredible person. Inexplicably he feels the same about me. It's a good life.

[Anonymous]

nothing. he is more interested in playing on his phone.

if he does say something, it is usually some random thing i don't care about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you and your spouse talk about?
Over dinner?
In the car? Or whatever, wherever..

That is not about your kids, house repair issues, the pets.
Or, do you not really talk, and why is that?

Married 32 years

Upcoming travel plans
Something funny we saw or heard or experienced
Current events
Books we read
Something one of us has been thinking about and needs a sounding board - it could be a solution to a problem, an idea we have…
Right now, we are newly retired- so we are talking quite a bit about healthcare options and how to figure out our cash flow and investment strategies

We talk about many different things.

[Anonymous]

Age 68, he is still working

We talk about his interesting job updates, my volunteer gig

friends
current events
books we are reading (a lot about history)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you and your spouse talk about?
Over dinner?
In the car? Or whatever, wherever..

That is not about your kids, house repair issues, the pets.
Or, do you not really talk, and why is that?

Married 34 years & together 38 years. We talk about everything. First, by taking kids/house repair/pets off the table, that's a good 30% of our conversation, to be honest. But we love mulling over these things, as we have four grown kids who provide ample discussion fodder. Our dog has got to be half of that 30%. She's a joy.

But for the other 70% - let's see. Our finances, my mom, trips to take, current events, movies, books, what we see on bike rides and window shopping, our aches and pains (this is probably a good 5%), philosophical questions about life, the universe, and everything. Tonight we'll go out to dinner and have a talk about this thread.

Married 40+ years (married young while I was still in undergrad, did grad school while married) and I am thankful every day that I met my DH. And I have always felt that way. We talk about much of what this PP and her DH talk about. Funnily enough, DCUM provides a decent amount of fodder, since there are always so many different topics. (An interesting side note, I think, that in a world of so many varied opinions, we tend to agree on issues, which I think might be the heart of a good relationship.)

We talk a lot about our work (we both still work and love what we do.) Books. The world. Finance. Goals. A lot about our work outs and how to be proactive with health. We both love researching any given topic.

Our kids have interesting jobs, and we like to stay current in their individual spaces so that if they ever talk about it, we can discuss. Definitely driven by them, not us. And we make sure we always let them be the experts, which they are. Basically, if they do ever talk about their work, we don't act like know-it-alls just because we read about it.

I think as a different PP said, we also are happy to sit together in silence while we catch up on email/read/research/whatever.

[Anonymous]

Gossip politics plans for events our kids and other people on our nerves

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you and your spouse talk about?
Over dinner?
In the car? Or whatever, wherever..

That is not about your kids, house repair issues, the pets.
Or, do you not really talk, and why is that?

Politics, tv, books, social circle, sports, town issues, travel, retirement plans, nostalgia etc.

[Anonymous]

Married 40 years. Happily married. Talk about anything we'd talk to a friend about, except some occasional other interests that are more commonly gender specific. Unlike our 20's/early 30's, we live lighter. Neither of us seem to have reasons to further explore the depths of our souls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:nothing. he is more interested in playing on his phone.

if he does say something, it is usually some random thing i don't care about.

His and my phones give us a lot of things to share and discuss.