Things you want to do and don't do

[Anonymous]

I would love a yard with many edible plants and trees and bushes. Turns out I love planning a garden, but don’t really like the actual gardening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love a yard with many edible plants and trees and bushes. Turns out I love planning a garden, but don’t really like the actual gardening.

It's sooo much work.

[Anonymous]

Learn how to garden. I try and I fail. I just want someone to tell me what to do.

Invest smartly. I just don’t have the will to read all about it

[Anonymous]

Read Proust.

[Anonymous]

Walk out of my job. I need a new job-and have been applying, but haven't had so much as an interview in months. I just wish I could up and leave. But I can't, so I won't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are there any? I often wish I could go and work (I wah so anywhere) in Maine or some other pretty coastal area for a week or two, but I don't do it. I justify it by thinking it's too expensive, dh and I cannot both do this, what about kids being back from college, our pets, but I could theoretically do it alone, yet I don't.

You should ABSOLUTELY do this, OP! Life is short, you know when your kids are going to be back from college, your husband can watch the pets (or board them or have a pet sitter if he wants to come). Do you truly never travel? Ever?!

[Anonymous]

I will do them, but as time allows some time down the road. I also want the garden, but I will get a gardener.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Read Proust.

Ha! Mine is Dostoevsky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:learn to decorate cakes

grow my own food (I'm going to manage herbs this year, at least)

Herbs have the most bang for the buck, in my experience. Just a small amount can elevate your cooking so much and are less likely than a tomato to be snatched by squirrels the day before you're ready to harvest.

[Anonymous]

I’d love to learn how to sew really well. Well enough to do alterations, make basic clothing items like simple dresses, pretty quilts, window treatments, that sort of thing.

[Anonymous]

If the co$t will not significantly impact your budget AND you have care for your pets - - then I strongly encourage you to do this…..nothing like having life regrets later on.

Both of my parents are buried in a cemetery together which is about a 30-min. drive from my house, yet I rarely go + visit their grave.
My relationship w/both of them was not very good if that adds context….but I feel as if I have a duty to visit them and make peace w/them since they have been gone over two decades.

The last time I paid them a visit was three yrs. ago.

[Anonymous]

Retire

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Key every single car I see with any kind of maga/gun/RWNJ bumperstickers or dog whistles. But most of the time I don’t because I worry about getting caught. But occasionally I do. Just not nearly as much as I want to.

Seek professional help for your rage issues.

[Anonymous]

I’d like to finish my book (seems to be a common theme) and get better at pickleball.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the co$t will not significantly impact your budget AND you have care for your pets - - then I strongly encourage you to do this…..nothing like having life regrets later on.

Both of my parents are buried in a cemetery together which is about a 30-min. drive from my house, yet I rarely go + visit their grave.
My relationship w/both of them was not very good if that adds context….but I feel as if I have a duty to visit them and make peace w/them since they have been gone over two decades.

The last time I paid them a visit was three yrs. ago.

I honestly don’t think a grave visit will help you. You don’t owe them anything, but you should seek out help to come to terms with your childhood. Maybe a few sessions of therapy? Journaling?