How to get through to spouse with angre problem

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My spouse has anger issues and always has. Things are now at a breaking point as it's now affecting the whole family unit. I'm not at the point of issuing an ultimatum, but need them to commit to individual therapy.

If you had to have a come to Jesus on something like this, how did you do it? At home? on a walk? in a public place?

What finally got through to them? We go through these cycles of things being pretty good and then one thing will trigger and explosive and frankly scary reaction. Both children are expressing concerns for their own and my safety.

Has she always been an angry person or is this something new? Any chance there's a physical explanation if it's sudden? Like a brain tumor?

Does she have a therapist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ignore the haters and people giving bad advice, OP.

His raging is not your fault, and I’m sure he hid his true colors very well from you during your dating years, it is not your fault for marrying him.

ChatGPT has better advice than a lot of the humans on this board.

Actually, yeah, it is. And it's definitely her fault for having children with him.

It's strange that you think the spouse with anger issues is a man. It's probably more likely it's a woman. I say this because women in general tend to be angrier and OP deliberately avoided using pronouns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My spouse has anger issues and always has. Things are now at a breaking point as it's now affecting the whole family unit. I'm not at the point of issuing an ultimatum, but need them to commit to individual therapy.

If you had to have a come to Jesus on something like this, how did you do it? At home? on a walk? in a public place?

What finally got through to them? We go through these cycles of things being pretty good and then one thing will trigger and explosive and frankly scary reaction. Both children are expressing concerns for their own and my safety.

What exactly is your spouse getting angry about OP? Pls provide a few examples

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ignore the haters and people giving bad advice, OP.

His raging is not your fault, and I’m sure he hid his true colors very well from you during your dating years, it is not your fault for marrying him.

ChatGPT has better advice than a lot of the humans on this board.

Actually, yeah, it is. And it's definitely her fault for having children with him.

It's strange that you think the spouse with anger issues is a man. It's probably more likely it's a woman. I say this because women in general tend to be angrier and OP deliberately avoided using pronouns.

Soo cool and clever.

My anger outbursts male husband gets mad over being asked to do things he already agreed to do but failed to do.
His bag of excuses stopped working about 3 years into the marriage when everyone realized he’s an incompetent, raging lunatic.

[Anonymous]

Since your children are being negatively impacted by your husband’s anger issues…..then something must be done stat.

Sorry you + your kids have to deal w/this.

I would definitely make this a No.#1 priority.