How to manage - nanny shoes no interest in helping to potty train

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Need to just do the boot camp over a weekend (take a day or two off work if needed) and get rid of the diapers!!
Make a chart for her to mark off if he went or not. If nanny isn’t experienced in this department, highly suggest having you take the lead and take time off work until he is successfully going.

Op here, we tried the weekend boot camp and it didn't with. He shows no interest in seating on the potty and refuses. We are pulling hair. We tried underwear and he is happy to sit on his underpants with shit in it.

This is our third attempt in 6 months and hoping now that he is almost three it might click 🤞

He is not ready. All you can do is incentivize him to sit regularly (treats? Screen time?) and talk about potty / have him observe you regularly until he’s willing to at least sit.

I don’t know about poop, but does he freak out when he pees? Is he an only child? I have potty trained 3 kids - each process was very different and I failed once with my highly anxious kiddo - but did the boot camp method with each. Lots of patience, m&ms, stickers, etc.

I let my kids watch the iPad while sitting on potty during boot camp and force fed them liquids (juice, sparkling water, stuff I wouldn’t regularly give) to create more opportunities.

Hang in there, it sucks. I just potty trained my last and while she picked it up pretty quickly I was absolutely tearing my hair out at the end of day 1. She gave no warnings she was about to pee and just did it 🤣 it was terrible and so frustrating. I took 3 days off when my nanny was around so I could follow her around with the potty while the nanny helped the older kids / did all housework.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am looking for some insights from experienced parents here.

My toddler is going to PK3 in August and we are making zero progress with potty training. We attempted a few times and took a break assuming DC is not ready. Now the clock is ticking.

On weekends we are available however I notice our nanny doesn't follow through if we ask her to take our son to potty. She will remember for a day and then stop. I am not sure how to communicate with her that she needs to help us as during the day we both are at work.

Am I expecting too much?

Please help me get some help.

You also should jump start it by going no pants and underwear at home for a weekend and really committing to it and committing to it in the morning and at night during the week.

When we only had one child our nanny worked with us really well and pushed it even. However, when it was time do potty train our second and we had three kids under 5 we realized that she was overwhelmed and it was going to fall on us, so we stepped in and really reinforced a lot and that helped significantly. We just took that approach from the start with our third and it was very easy. It’s not just the nanny though, it’s also you and your child. Blaming the nanny shouldn’t be your default and if you have other kids and are expecting her to do pick ups and drop offs and activities you need to acknowledge it’s not realistic for your child to sit at home and work on potty training all day and if this is your only child and they have a tight schedule with lots of time in the car or at activities or preschool that will also influence how proactive vs reactive your nanny can be. If you make the ask be to sure to acknowledge any limitations that you’ve imposed on the process (very tight activity timing, multiple kids with lots of activities, etc) and do the work yourself as well.