Is this even worth talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's report. If he started using the N word and then said "no it's fine, everyone knows I like black people!" Would you react differently?

This. Clock it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would end things over this, and I don't say that often on this forum. He's the type of guy who would say homophobic/racist/sexist BS and write it off as "but I don't actually hate that group!".

Plus I would be incredibly embarrassed if he said something like that in public.

+1000

If he thinks it's not a big deal he will (a) say it on front of the other people and (b) say it in front of your kids, were to you get that far with this loser.

Drop him today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's report. If he started using the N word and then said "no it's fine, everyone knows I like black people!" Would you react differently?

OP here. He feels this way also. His best friend is black, and he grew up around a lot of black people. I just don’t get his logic on these things. There’s no reason to use hurtful words.

Because his "logic" isn't logical. He's an idiot. If he's the kind of person to get sucked into extreme content, that is also a huge red flag. Dump him and go find someone better. And if for some reason you think you shouldn't dump him because you can't get or don't deserve someone better, then dump him and get yourself into therapy.

Look, this board has a lot of vitriol and trolls on it, but I figure every once in a while someone posts something that actually helps someone. Please let all these responses not be wasted on you. Take this opportunity to leave this guy and save yourself from eventual trouble with him. Those of us who are (likely) quite a bit older than you have some wisdom to give, so heed it.

[Anonymous]

I think you're a troll with an agenda.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Today my boyfriend dropped the F word (related to gays). I was appalled and told him so. He justified himself saying he can say it because he doesn’t actually hate gays and everyone knows it.

I just don’t even know what to say. I feel like ending things.

This is so gay…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not just this one thing, is it?

OP here. He’s been slipping down a rabbit hole of extreme content. I just feel exhausted. It was the resoluteness with which he defended his position. I don’t want to come from a hard day at work and hear someone dropping the f bomb. The world is effed up enough as it is.

This is the reason you end it.

[Anonymous]

Girllllllll 🚩

[Anonymous]

How old is he?

I only ask this because older generations used this word a lot (not an excuse…..just playing Devil’s Advocate,)……
I might forgive him if it was a slip, but if it was intentional I would just let him know that I felt it was hugely disrespectful and ask him to refrain from referencing that specific term again.

If he obliges then I would let it go.

[Anonymous]

He’s only going to get more into “extreme content” as he ages. Break up with him immediately.

[Anonymous]

Grab a clean plate. The buffet is waiting.

[Anonymous]

If he could say everything he wanted to say I bet you this f-word would be one of the more least offensive words you would hear come out. He probably listens to Nick Fuentes as well.

[Anonymous]

He did it to test you and what he can say around you. The N word is coming next...

[Anonymous]

Only you can decide, but I think it depends on what else he brings to the table. And how easy he is for you to replace. No one is perfect.