Is this even worth talking about?

[Anonymous]

Today my boyfriend dropped the F word (related to gays). I was appalled and told him so. He justified himself saying he can say it because he doesn’t actually hate gays and everyone knows it.

I just don’t even know what to say. I feel like ending things.

[Anonymous]

It's not just this one thing, is it?

[Anonymous]

I would end things over this, and I don't say that often on this forum. He's the type of guy who would say homophobic/racist/sexist BS and write it off as "but I don't actually hate that group!".

Plus I would be incredibly embarrassed if he said something like that in public.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not just this one thing, is it?

OP here. He’s been slipping down a rabbit hole of extreme content. I just feel exhausted. It was the resoluteness with which he defended his position. I don’t want to come from a hard day at work and hear someone dropping the f bomb. The world is effed up enough as it is.

[Anonymous]

Is he saying he wants to f*** gays?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he saying he wants to f*** gays?

No he is calling them fa@@ots

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would end things over this, and I don't say that often on this forum. He's the type of guy who would say homophobic/racist/sexist BS and write it off as "but I don't actually hate that group!".

Plus I would be incredibly embarrassed if he said something like that in public.

THIS. I dated a guy who started off the same (using that slur in private) and eventually he started saying REALLY embarrassing things around gay people in public. Loudly. I was mortified.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not just this one thing, is it?

OP here. He’s been slipping down a rabbit hole of extreme content. I just feel exhausted. It was the resoluteness with which he defended his position. I don’t want to come from a hard day at work and hear someone dropping the f bomb. The world is effed up enough as it is.

Why is this even a question? Is your self esteem so low that you have to crowd source whether or not you should break up with this guy?

[Anonymous]

Let's report. If he started using the N word and then said "no it's fine, everyone knows I like black people!" Would you react differently?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's report. If he started using the N word and then said "no it's fine, everyone knows I like black people!" Would you react differently?

OP here. He feels this way also. His best friend is black, and he grew up around a lot of black people. I just don’t get his logic on these things. There’s no reason to use hurtful words.

[Anonymous]

I would never want to have sex with that person again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's report. If he started using the N word and then said "no it's fine, everyone knows I like black people!" Would you react differently?

OP here. He feels this way also. His best friend is black, and he grew up around a lot of black people. I just don’t get his logic on these things. There’s no reason to use hurtful words.

If this is a real post, work on your self esteem. This is...really sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never want to have sex with that person again.

People put up with a lot when they have low self esteem and are desperate.

[Anonymous]

This is the ADHD guy?

[Anonymous]

I swear some people stay with awful people just so they can get the attention by complaining about them.