Colleague who has crush on me sending me lots of work

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I would assume he thinks he can charm you into doing his work.

I would just reply all every time with “hey folks, I’m not on this project so please remove me from the email chain.” Hopefully he gets the hint after 1-2 emails.

You don’t have to be nice to this joker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I would assume he thinks he can charm you into doing his work.

I would just reply all every time with “hey folks, I’m not on this project so please remove me from the email chain.” Hopefully he gets the hint after 1-2 emails.

You don’t have to be nice to this joker

This. Are you very young, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So not commission based, just extra unpaid work for you?

He will give his subordinates tasks to do and copy me on the emails. As if expecting me to do the work as well. I help if I have time but often I’m busy with my own projects.

“Why am I on this email?” Too hard to ask?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So not commission based, just extra unpaid work for you?

He will give his subordinates tasks to do and copy me on the emails. As if expecting me to do the work as well. I help if I have time but often I’m busy with my own projects.

So I see three possibilities:

-He has a crush on you, and this is a misguided way of getting to spend time with you, or perhaps impress you with how he manages his own team.
-He doesn't have a crush on you, but is just flirting with you so you'll volunteer to do the work.
-He isn't flirting, but is smiling at you and trying to sit by you because he's heard you're going to be joining his team and trying to include you, but no one told you yet.

I might casually mention to my boss "hey, I'm not supposed to work on anything from Team X, right?"

Or very possibly:
-He isn’t flirting but thinks you’re excellent at your job and is trying to give you opportunities and groom you for the next step.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So not commission based, just extra unpaid work for you?

He will give his subordinates tasks to do and copy me on the emails. As if expecting me to do the work as well. I help if I have time but often I’m busy with my own projects.

“Why am I on this email?” Too hard to ask?

chill

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So not commission based, just extra unpaid work for you?

He will give his subordinates tasks to do and copy me on the emails. As if expecting me to do the work as well. I help if I have time but often I’m busy with my own projects.

“Why am I on this email?” Too hard to ask?

Your coworkers must love you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, do either of you wear hats in the office or on Zoom calls? Very interested to hear your answer.

No hats!

Thought so. My advice would be to start wearing a hat in the office, and for remote work, on any Zoom calls. That will get you removed from all these emails. You can thank me later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A guy I work with who is obviously smitten with me (huge smile every time he sees me, always tries to sit next to me, stares at me constantly, tells me to “call him anytime”, etc…) is giving me extra work to do. He’s not even my boss! When he has a project for his staff, he’ll copy me on the email. We’re not even on the same team! Our respective teams have projects in common but we are in two different departments.

What in the world is going on?

What's going on is you think awfully highly of yourself.

[Anonymous]

You think he has a crush on you?
He’s being extra nice to you to try to con you into doing his work. Tale as old as time! You must be lucky enough never to have met one of these types before. They pride themselves on how they manipulate people.
I had a coworker who talked an old man into inviting him over for the religious celebration they had in common, got him to pull strings for a promotion, “you’re like the son I never had” then once he got the job he wanted never spoke to the old man again. Charming!
Now I understand these women who say they get hit on all the time. I always wondered why it never happened to me. Every smile isn’t necessarily flirtation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So not commission based, just extra unpaid work for you?

He will give his subordinates tasks to do and copy me on the emails. As if expecting me to do the work as well. I help if I have time but often I’m busy with my own projects.

So I see three possibilities:

-He has a crush on you, and this is a misguided way of getting to spend time with you, or perhaps impress you with how he manages his own team.
-He doesn't have a crush on you, but is just flirting with you so you'll volunteer to do the work.
-He isn't flirting, but is smiling at you and trying to sit by you because he's heard you're going to be joining his team and trying to include you, but no one told you yet.

I might casually mention to my boss "hey, I'm not supposed to work on anything from Team X, right?"

Or very possibly:
-He isn’t flirting but thinks you’re excellent at your job and is trying to give you opportunities and groom you for the next step.

That's just bad management. Throwing random tasks at employees who have other work to do doesn't prepare anyone for any roles, it just makes them slower at completing the work they are required to do.

The right thing for OP to do is request to be taken off emails. For all we know, she could have the same name as someone on his team and he's accidentally CC'ing OP.

[Anonymous]

I hate the word groom. It now evokes disgust in me.

[Anonymous]

He obviously is using these tactics in order to have direct contact with you OP. 😉

Do you like him too??

[Anonymous]

What makes you think he has a crush on you vs. just trying to get whatever work done?

Anyways, tell your boss. Since this person is not your boss and punting work your way.

[Anonymous]

My only question is is the crush reciprocated. If not, the “I’m not on this project” email is the answer. Done.