How would you handle parent dropping child off with younger sibling at play place?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you meeting other moms too? Not really relevant, just curious.

Yes, other parents will be there.

We had a birthday party a few weeks ago and so many people brought siblings. It was a large public venue and we just received a larger bill for the extra people. I wonder if people realize siblings are not invited!!!

Or if they do come, you should stay with your child.

They don’t care and they rationalize it as “they can afford it”. Been there done that

You should invite siblings as what are they supposed to do with their other kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“I apologize if I miscommunicated. I am happy to supervise Billy but I can’t handle Jimmy too by myself. Please stay with us or take Jimmy with you.”

I sent this exact text once AFTER the surprise drop off and got the response of a shrug emoji. Then her husband came to pick up when it was done.
I heard later that she thought I was being “snobby” to “exclude her other son”.

Yeah, rather be a snob than see a kid get hurt and be blamed for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you meeting other moms too? Not really relevant, just curious.

Yes, other parents will be there.

We had a birthday party a few weeks ago and so many people brought siblings. It was a large public venue and we just received a larger bill for the extra people. I wonder if people realize siblings are not invited!!!

Or if they do come, you should stay with your child.

They don’t care and they rationalize it as “they can afford it”. Been there done that

You should invite siblings as what are they supposed to do with their other kids.

What parents since the beginning of time have done. You sound young.

[Anonymous]

Love that apology note! Perfect, and annoying that person out you in position

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you meeting other moms too? Not really relevant, just curious.

Yes, other parents will be there.

We had a birthday party a few weeks ago and so many people brought siblings. It was a large public venue and we just received a larger bill for the extra people. I wonder if people realize siblings are not invited!!!

Or if they do come, you should stay with your child.

They don’t care and they rationalize it as “they can afford it”. Been there done that

You should invite siblings as what are they supposed to do with their other kids.

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They are supposed to take care of their others kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are meeting people for an activity and mom says she will be dropping both kids off. I don’t want to watch the younger sibling. Older child can play with my child.

Did she ask you to watch the sibling?

[Anonymous]

It’s definitely rude but if you insist upon dropping off the sibling, give the host $50 for the extra child. If you stay to supervise, check with staff and verify that your presence isn’t added to the host’s bill. If they charge by the person give the host $100.

[Anonymous]

When in Rome

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you meeting other moms too? Not really relevant, just curious.

Yes, other parents will be there.

We had a birthday party a few weeks ago and so many people brought siblings. It was a large public venue and we just received a larger bill for the extra people. I wonder if people realize siblings are not invited!!!

Or if they do come, you should stay with your child.

They don’t care and they rationalize it as “they can afford it”. Been there done that

That’s not even the point. What if you brought something for the guests and the extra starts crying they didn’t get one. Or what you planned is not good for younger kids. It’s just so rude of them.

[Anonymous]

OP hasn’t been back, so maybe a troll!

[Anonymous]

I don't handle it. I stopped handling it after a few times.

If Parents wanted to bring their kid to my house for a play date? Great. They could visit with me while the kids play. I would even provide them with a meal and snacks but I stopped taking responsibility for other people's kids at my house. I also did not do drop-off parties. Parents were expected to attend with their kids and look after them.

Why? Because when I did it a few times - I experienced extremely ill-mannered kids, moms who took off for the whole day when they had promised to be away for 1/2 an hour and finally I was left with kids who were contagious or dirty.

So, do in Rome what Romans do. If you are an immigrant and generally were used to better raised kids and responsible parents in your country of origin, do not expect the same from majority culture here.

Protect your own kid and keep them under your supervision and do not over-extend yourself offering hospitality or playdates. Let the parent also accompany the kid(s), and as soon as the kids start to whine or complain or not play nicely, usher the mom and kid out and end the play date. My go to was "Oh, it seems that the kids are over stimulated and now they are getting cranky, so we will end the playdate now. Say goodbye to your friend, Larlo, and thank him for playing with you. Lets do this again very soon, ok? This was so much fun. "

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP hasn’t been back, so maybe a troll!

Not a troll. I told the mom I couldn’t be responsible for the sibling so she asked another parent to keep an eye on her kid. I was a few minutes late so she asked another person. When the mom was leaving, she couldn’t even find the younger kid. I saw the other parent and her looking for her and I just chatted with some other parents. I actually never saw the younger sibling the entire time. Thank goodness I didn’t agree to watch her.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, I think you misunderstood. This is not a drop off, all the parents will be staying to supervise their own kids.

[Anonymous]

I had a mom bring a younger sibling even though I told her it’s a no-sibling birthday party when she emailed to ask. She said they were just going to watch, then insisted the sibling join the activity after 10 min. The party was single gender from the same grade, and this sibling was opposite gender and 4-5 years younger. The mom is so clueless and insufferable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you meeting other moms too? Not really relevant, just curious.

Yes, other parents will be there.

We had a birthday party a few weeks ago and so many people brought siblings. It was a large public venue and we just received a larger bill for the extra people. I wonder if people realize siblings are not invited!!!

Or if they do come, you should stay with your child.

They don’t care and they rationalize it as “they can afford it”. Been there done that

You should invite siblings as what are they supposed to do with their other kids.

You're pathetic