Spring season when to leave

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Anonymous wrote:My 10 year old has decided they are done with soccer and want to spend more time dedicated to their other sport. Since we made a commitment to the team for the year would you have them finish out the spring and try to make the best of it knowing this is probably the end. Or would you quit and let the intensity ramp up on their other sport?

Quit, and let the kids who want to play get the game minutes.

A player already left the team to chase a higher team, if there are injuries there probably won't be any subs. So that thought has crossed my mind just unintended consequences.

This negative feeling happens when a good player leaves the team for a higher level one. When that happens, lot of kids probably feel similar as your son. It is a rude wakeup call to the world of competitive sports. But don't worry, that feeling usually subsides when everyone gets used to that player being gone. New bonds will form in about 3-4 weeks. They will forget all about the kid that left for a better team.

I'd explain you signed up for a team commitment and you got to help the team out until the end of the season. If your kid is really wanting to try another sport, I would sign up for the other sport as a 2nd priority after your 1st team sport. If anything you could skip a few team practices and make both work. Your kid might change their mind all together by the end of the season or when April tryouts come around. If not, thats ok too. But you should finish what you started in team sports.

Haha that's funny the player that left is not a higher level player, they might think they are but they were not. My kid could care less that they left. They didn't like getting stuck in the position the coach played them at and over the winter dedicated more time to other sport and gained lots of skills so enjoys that more. It's not about trying another sport they have been splitting their time between the two for years now and they are both ramping up and a decision would need to be made at some point.

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Anonymous wrote:My 10 year old has decided they are done with soccer and want to spend more time dedicated to their other sport. Since we made a commitment to the team for the year would you have them finish out the spring and try to make the best of it knowing this is probably the end. Or would you quit and let the intensity ramp up on their other sport?

Quit, and let the kids who want to play get the game minutes.

A player already left the team to chase a higher team, if there are injuries there probably won't be any subs. So that thought has crossed my mind just unintended consequences.

This negative feeling happens when a good player leaves the team for a higher level one. When that happens, lot of kids probably feel similar as your son. It is a rude wakeup call to the world of competitive sports. But don't worry, that feeling usually subsides when everyone gets used to that player being gone. New bonds will form in about 3-4 weeks. They will forget all about the kid that left for a better team.

I'd explain you signed up for a team commitment and you got to help the team out until the end of the season. If your kid is really wanting to try another sport, I would sign up for the other sport as a 2nd priority after your 1st team sport. If anything you could skip a few team practices and make both work. Your kid might change their mind all together by the end of the season or when April tryouts come around. If not, thats ok too. But you should finish what you started in team sports.

Haha that's funny the player that left is not a higher level player, they might think they are but they were not. My kid could care less that they left. They didn't like getting stuck in the position the coach played them at and over the winter dedicated more time to other sport and gained lots of skills so enjoys that more. It's not about trying another sport they have been splitting their time between the two for years now and they are both ramping up and a decision would need to be made at some point.

Welp, sounds like your kid (and you as a parent) didn't like a few things about the current team.

I'd still stick it out and finish the season quietly...quitting the team early really does affect the other players on the team. It's confusing for them and teaches everyone it's ok to quit when the going gets tough ect.

You might find some validation to decide to quit the team early here, but based on the reasons you described, nothing screams yo should leave early. I'd consider skipping 1 weekly practice to make room for the new sport.

Only your family knows all the variables to make a decision thats right for your own family. -Sounds like you're in a tough spot and I am hoping things smooth over for you guys.

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Tend to agree with PP.

Maybe favor the split with the other sport but I wouldn’t abandon completely, just seems like the wrong message.

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Again it should not be overlooked how the coach treats your kid. You DO want to teach your kid to honor their commitments. On the flip side if your child is being treated nasty and unjust, then you want to make sure your child knows that they are NEVER obligated to stay in an abusive relationship. Too many of these coaches have god complexes and are very verbally and psychologically abusive. I know that most are not, but everyone knows of at least one or two coaches that are.

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Anonymous wrote:My 10 year old has decided they are done with soccer and want to spend more time dedicated to their other sport. Since we made a commitment to the team for the year would you have them finish out the spring and try to make the best of it knowing this is probably the end. Or would you quit and let the intensity ramp up on their other sport?

Quit, and let the kids who want to play get the game minutes.

A player already left the team to chase a higher team, if there are injuries there probably won't be any subs. So that thought has crossed my mind just unintended consequences.

This negative feeling happens when a good player leaves the team for a higher level one. When that happens, lot of kids probably feel similar as your son. It is a rude wakeup call to the world of competitive sports. But don't worry, that feeling usually subsides when everyone gets used to that player being gone. New bonds will form in about 3-4 weeks. They will forget all about the kid that left for a better team.

I'd explain you signed up for a team commitment and you got to help the team out until the end of the season. If your kid is really wanting to try another sport, I would sign up for the other sport as a 2nd priority after your 1st team sport. If anything you could skip a few team practices and make both work. Your kid might change their mind all together by the end of the season or when April tryouts come around. If not, thats ok too. But you should finish what you started in team sports.

Haha that's funny the player that left is not a higher level player, they might think they are but they were not. My kid could care less that they left. They didn't like getting stuck in the position the coach played them at and over the winter dedicated more time to other sport and gained lots of skills so enjoys that more. It's not about trying another sport they have been splitting their time between the two for years now and they are both ramping up and a decision would need to be made at some point.

Welp, sounds like your kid (and you as a parent) didn't like a few things about the current team.

I'd still stick it out and finish the season quietly...quitting the team early really does affect the other players on the team. It's confusing for them and teaches everyone it's ok to quit when the going gets tough ect.

You might find some validation to decide to quit the team early here, but based on the reasons you described, nothing screams yo should leave early. I'd consider skipping 1 weekly practice to make room for the new sport.

Only your family knows all the variables to make a decision thats right for your own family. -Sounds like you're in a tough spot and I am hoping things smooth over for you guys.

Thanks. That was my initial plan go to 2 practices a week and games. Then only miss practice for other sport if a game conflicts with practice we did this in the fall but made the 3 weekly practices which meant one day of doing both. It was a lot.

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Assuming your child asked for this initially I would make them finish the season.

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming your child asked for this initially I would make them finish the season.

Yes from them.

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If you’re going to quit then quit. Stop the drama train.

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It's only hard to quit something the first time and quitting becomes habit forming. The lesson is in sticking it out and showing your child has integrity, grit and respect in all circumstances. Short of this being abusive and or toxic, I would I never let my kid quit something he committed to finish.

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I would quit and tell everyone on the team that the reason - coach is a jerk. Would not tolerate. Also your kid is not a quitter- he’s decided to specialize in a different sport.

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Similar boat. We’ve stuck it out four years. Another kid on the team quit recently and I decided they have much healthier boundaries. The team is toxic and the coach is a jerk. I would quit and not look back.

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Raising a Quitter is always a good thing

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Anonymous wrote:Raising a Quitter is always a good thing

You're a loser -- most likely a toxic coach lurking on the blogs. Teaching your kids to stay in an abusive environment is not healthy. Empower your kid to stand up to jerks or walk away from them.

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Anonymous wrote:Raising a Quitter is always a good thing

You're a loser -- most likely a toxic coach lurking on the blogs. Teaching your kids to stay in an abusive environment is not healthy. Empower your kid to stand up to jerks or walk away from them.

Sorry I missed the abusive environment part

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Anonymous wrote:Raising a Quitter is always a good thing

You're a loser -- most likely a toxic coach lurking on the blogs. Teaching your kids to stay in an abusive environment is not healthy. Empower your kid to stand up to jerks or walk away from them.

OP said absolutely nothing about an abusive environment