Personality or pathology?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All kids are selfish. That's important for them to make it to adulthood. They are like parasites on their parents but at least you don't die after giving birth to them, like an octopus.

op - this may be the best response i've ever read on here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:op - i read so much about the asd diagnoses many on here get that are more subtle so I'm curious about those.

For ds, as I said, the manifestation of whatever he has is irritability, self involvement and inflexibility (not about routines, but about doing what he wants to do). He does need a lot of decompression time and has weak interoception capabilities and poor emotional regulation.

ASD is such a mystery to me at this point in terms of 'what it is', but I'm guessing maybe it is this. It's confusing bc as i said, it doesn't feel like he is culturally distinct from other 12 yo boys. Just at home, is difficult.

Have you looked into PDA?

op - i once followed the facebook page but was immediately turned off by the fact that it seemed to be 99% populated by people who were like 'my kid refuses to go to school/ wash/ eat anything but jello/ brush their hair so i just let them be that way but it's not working out great'.
My point being, empathetic as I might be if that is indeed the case, I dont fundamentally believe that the 'a' is the way to go.