Anyone getting married these days?

[Anonymous]

I'm happily married like 90+ % of people I know. You are the average of your friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 35-year-old male, single and never married, looking for a relationship with someone between the ages of 25 and 34. I have a good job earning $500K per year, own my condo outright with no mortgage, and I’m above average in looks, fit, and have many interesting hobbies. I’ve spent the last 13 years building my career to get to where I am today. I play golf and pickleball with about 40 guys in my circle, and around 30 of them are either divorced or in the process of getting divorced. The guys who are still married are not happy with their situations. Almost all of them have told me not to get married, and that if I want children, I should just pay someone to carry a couple of kids for me. A few guys in the group also make $500K per year, but after paying alimony and child support, their incomes are reduced by more than 60%. Is it really that bad? Thoughts?

Well, no sh!t, a bunch of grown men abandoning their families to play golf and pickleball are gonna end up divorced or unhappy.

OP, if you want to get married and have kids, you'll have to stop the golf and pickleball with the bros. Having kids means all hands on deck for at least the first 6 years, longer if you have multiple kids, special needs kids, etc. No golf, no pickleball, no hanging with the guys. You don't get to run off every weekend and leave your wife to handle the kids alone because you make $500k.

If you can give up your crappy friend group, stay home to help care for the kids, take your wife on dates every week, and prioritize your family, you'll be fine. If you want to continue to play bachelor, then don't get married.