Anyone getting married these days?

[Anonymous]

I’m a 35-year-old male, single and never married, looking for a relationship with someone between the ages of 25 and 34. I have a good job earning $500K per year, own my condo outright with no mortgage, and I’m above average in looks, fit, and have many interesting hobbies. I’ve spent the last 13 years building my career to get to where I am today. I play golf and pickleball with about 40 guys in my circle, and around 30 of them are either divorced or in the process of getting divorced. The guys who are still married are not happy with their situations. Almost all of them have told me not to get married, and that if I want children, I should just pay someone to carry a couple of kids for me. A few guys in the group also make $500K per year, but after paying alimony and child support, their incomes are reduced by more than 60%. Is it really that bad? Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

People are still getting married, but are taking their time and being thoughtful. So take your time. I encourage you to be open to someone even a little older than you, too (it's a bit strange that you stop to ensure you're older.)

[Anonymous]

Nope
Straight situationships and baby mommy- daddy set up’s

[Anonymous]

Why are they getting divorced?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 35-year-old male, single and never married, looking for a relationship with someone between the ages of 25 and 34. I have a good job earning $500K per year, own my condo outright with no mortgage, and I’m above average in looks, fit, and have many interesting hobbies. I’ve spent the last 13 years building my career to get to where I am today. I play golf and pickleball with about 40 guys in my circle, and around 30 of them are either divorced or in the process of getting divorced. The guys who are still married are not happy with their situations. Almost all of them have told me not to get married, and that if I want children, I should just pay someone to carry a couple of kids for me. A few guys in the group also make $500K per year, but after paying alimony and child support, their incomes are reduced by more than 60%. Is it really that bad? Thoughts?

Yes, I have thoughts. The main one is this:

People ... please do not feed this troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People are still getting married, but are taking their time and being thoughtful. So take your time. I encourage you to be open to someone even a little older than you, too (it's a bit strange that you stop to ensure you're older.)

Np. I’d assume it’s because he wants to have kids. If he dates for 2 years and then is engaged for a year, it would add even more time.

[Anonymous]

Maybe your soul mate is 35 or 36?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 35-year-old male, single and never married, looking for a relationship with someone between the ages of 25 and 34. I have a good job earning $500K per year, own my condo outright with no mortgage, and I’m above average in looks, fit, and have many interesting hobbies. I’ve spent the last 13 years building my career to get to where I am today. I play golf and pickleball with about 40 guys in my circle, and around 30 of them are either divorced or in the process of getting divorced. The guys who are still married are not happy with their situations. Almost all of them have told me not to get married, and that if I want children, I should just pay someone to carry a couple of kids for me. A few guys in the group also make $500K per year, but after paying alimony and child support, their incomes are reduced by more than 60%. Is it really that bad? Thoughts?

Yes

[Anonymous]

Why is a prize like you still single?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 35-year-old male, single and never married, looking for a relationship with someone between the ages of 25 and 34. I have a good job earning $500K per year, own my condo outright with no mortgage, and I’m above average in looks, fit, and have many interesting hobbies. I’ve spent the last 13 years building my career to get to where I am today. I play golf and pickleball with about 40 guys in my circle, and around 30 of them are either divorced or in the process of getting divorced. The guys who are still married are not happy with their situations. Almost all of them have told me not to get married, and that if I want children, I should just pay someone to carry a couple of kids for me. A few guys in the group also make $500K per year, but after paying alimony and child support, their incomes are reduced by more than 60%. Is it really that bad? Thoughts?

Every single type A weirdo I've met like you describes himself as above average and every single one is firmly average to ugly. There's something about your personality type that makes you unable to see your own faults. Maybe narcissism? Anyway, remember that "fit" is about how your body looks. Handsome is about how your face looks. You can be fit, but that doesn't make you handsome or above average in looks. It's important you understand this because men like you kill themselves on the dating market by going for the topmost tier of women lookswise when you're not their equivalent. You need to bring a lot more than $500k if you're going to have a bad personality (which you do), a negative attitude to women, and aren't a 6'2 David Gandy lookalike.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 35-year-old male, single and never married, looking for a relationship with someone between the ages of 25 and 34. I have a good job earning $500K per year, own my condo outright with no mortgage, and I’m above average in looks, fit, and have many interesting hobbies. I’ve spent the last 13 years building my career to get to where I am today. I play golf and pickleball with about 40 guys in my circle, and around 30 of them are either divorced or in the process of getting divorced. The guys who are still married are not happy with their situations. Almost all of them have told me not to get married, and that if I want children, I should just pay someone to carry a couple of kids for me. A few guys in the group also make $500K per year, but after paying alimony and child support, their incomes are reduced by more than 60%. Is it really that bad? Thoughts?

Do you think it's unfair for a father who benefited from his wife carrying the kids and putting her career second to have to pay alimony and child support? If you do, then you're looking for a childbearing slave to exploit, not a wife. Go ahead and rent your surrogate while it's still legal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 35-year-old male, single and never married, looking for a relationship with someone between the ages of 25 and 34. I have a good job earning $500K per year, own my condo outright with no mortgage, and I’m above average in looks, fit, and have many interesting hobbies. I’ve spent the last 13 years building my career to get to where I am today. I play golf and pickleball with about 40 guys in my circle, and around 30 of them are either divorced or in the process of getting divorced. The guys who are still married are not happy with their situations. Almost all of them have told me not to get married, and that if I want children, I should just pay someone to carry a couple of kids for me. A few guys in the group also make $500K per year, but after paying alimony and child support, their incomes are reduced by more than 60%. Is it really that bad? Thoughts?

Women increasingly don't have to settle for men like you. Only copious amounts of money make a man like you tolerable. Nowadays, women don't need the money, so why put up with you?

[Anonymous]

Also, you might be physically 35, but, psychologically, you're an embittered 47 year old twice-divorce dad of two teens who hate him. Even if you get married, it won't last because you're going to make a perpetually miserable and suspicious husband. Marriage isn't for you.

Part of this is the company you keep. The rejected ex-husband who resent having to take care of their own offspring are mentoring you to end up like them. I think the biggest part of it though is that you're a closet case. That's why you mistrust and resent women and see us as useful only for our uteruses. That's also why you gravitate towards other men who hate women. Try dating men and you'll see that you're suddenly able to commit and fall in love. Men like you have got to stop tormenting women because you're too afraid of the social consequences of being homosexual.

[Anonymous]

You run in a terrible circle of "friends."

My circle of friends make less than half of what you do, and 90% are still married. But we married the people who we actually liked and things in common with.

I think making 500 grand a year makes people shallow. You embody that.

[Anonymous]

I am a woman and don’t think marriage is a good idea for women. I don’t get alimony or child support. I sacrificed too much. Not worth it.

If you want to get married basically to have a baby, you are using a woman. That is what happened to me. It won’t work.

I did not want kids: he agreed and pulled a bait and switch. Turns out he sounds like you…uterus user.

Marriage in general sucks for both genders. I don’t recommend.