High doses of adderall still dont help dh remember a single thing

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a million things other than adhd.

[Anonymous]

Adderall is not for regular standard memory.

Get him a checkup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not ADHD.

But you also sound like you have some issues with your kid, if you told them your dad was going to be gone for a week to help his dad, and your kid was having anxiety attacks. Why can't your kids be separated from their dad for perfectly normal reasons?

This. Kids have instincts that may not even be conscious.
Their kid may be more aware of things than OP realizes. Part of the anxiety may be because they knew dad was gone for other reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not ADHD.

But you also sound like you have some issues with your kid, if you told them your dad was going to be gone for a week to help his dad, and your kid was having anxiety attacks. Why can't your kids be separated from their dad for perfectly normal reasons?

Their kid may be more aware of things than OP realizes. Part of the anxiety may be because they knew dad was gone for other reasons.

op - yes i think he picked up on some things that I was hoping were flying under the radar.

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Anonymous wrote:I have ADHD and in perimenopause my memory is an absolute disaster. I don’t know if men have this problem. But it could def be ADHD.

op - it is of course adhd. hence the adderall.

[Anonymous]

OP, if it was ADHD, then the Adderall would be making some sort of change. ADHD is an inability to manage attention, not a complete lack of memory. I know that’s really scary to hear.

The first thing you do is take him to the PCP and tell the doctor that the Adderall is not working for his “ADHD”. He’s forgetting everything and lying about it. You can write this on paper if you don’t want to say it in front of DH. He needs a full screening. If everything comes back normal, then you can look at other steps, such as an executive function coach. I knew a woman whose 7 year old had a brain tumor the size of a golf ball. If your DH is alive, he’s not too young to have brain cancer. I’m so sorry.

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P.S. I’m not saying it IS brain cancer, but if it’s bad enough that you’d leave him, it must be really bad. If it’s bad enough to leave him over, then it’s bad enough to get a full medical work up.

[Anonymous]

Ma’am divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dementia screening, UTI, sleep apnea.

It's not ADHD

Could be adhd.
Also could be low vitamin D, anemia, or thyroid.
Ask him to make a doctor appointment.

[Anonymous]

Did he have COVID?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or ms? My friends husband had ms and first sign was stuff like this

Can women get ms?

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Anonymous wrote:How old is he?

You can get dementia in your 40's.

Could be a brain tumor etc or something else going on.

How is his speech? Does he not do activities he used to be able to do? Like speak a foreign language, play an instrument, drive, or stuff like that?

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Anonymous wrote:Dementia screening, UTI, sleep apnea.

It's not ADHD

As someone with severe ADHD I disagree. Lying is well know coping mechanism for those with ADHD. He needs CBT more than the meds. Life changing.

For what it is worth; he isn't lying to "you", he is making room or note in his brain, what I call "rescheduling". I have told her that I have done it, so now I need to do it or I will be lying.

His brain clock works nothing like yours. Where you remember long stretches of time and memories, events of the last 15 years, he remembers 15 years and one day ago and now with a few big moments in the middle. He hasn't forgotten everything else, it will just take some prompting or a deep reason for him to recall the other meemories. When he does he will remember them in infinite more detail than you could ever imagine.

Please remember, there isn't anything wrong with his brain, it just functions differently than yours. How you view his brain as off or odd is how he views brain. He is not an oddity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a million things other than adhd.

+1

[Anonymous]

Men tune out angry women. Literally he hears nothing you say, doesn’t remember what you told him or asked him to do.