Eldercare woes - selling their car

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not just sign it over to your sibling

Why? I would also like the car, and I would not sign it over to myself.

Sibling stole some items already so they do not meed more. I come from a perfect family as you can see. Haha

OP

You sound nasty. Give the sibling the car if they need it.

Ignore this troll, OP. They're just trying to rile you up.

Thank you. I can see their projection. They are nasty so they are calling me nasty. This is just like my family! Haha

OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure. I still could. But I did not want to spend my time that way.

Lol.

Sounds like you ended up spending an awful lot of time anyway.

No. Finding a buyer 1-1 takes much more time than letting a tow truck haul it away.

OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Carvana will pick the car up at your house and give you a check.

Thank you. Carmax would not pick it up because I have to use a POA to sell it on behalf of someone else.

OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have an excellent car to sell. Old but low mileage and nearly pristine body and interior. The stereotypical grandma car that was barely driven...

It's insane how hard it has been to get rid of this car.

First, I tried CarMax because they promised to come to the house. Great! But nope! They won't come to the house after all. I would need to drive the car there 45-60 min and then find my own way home afterward.

Second, I tried the car's branded dealership. Price way, way too low.

Third, I tried car donation. The guy said I needed to give him a PAPER COPY of the POA. Yeah, right. He obviously has no clue what he is talking about.

Fourth, I tried selling to Eastern Motors. Their website says I will get an offer if I take photos, so I take 20-30 minute to go to the car and take all the photos. But nope! Then, they say I need to "come in" to get a price. Wtf? They lied.

Fifth time is a charm!

Finally, I tried a different car donation place. This woman knew her stuff and the car donation will likely happen within a week. They will come to my house and can handle the POA and other paperwork.

Lastly, my personality disordered sibling will likely scream at me about getting rid of the car, but I have asked many times for three years what they want to do with the car, and they refuse to answer.

Since I did not hear back, we are doing it my way!

Did you try Carvana? They come to the house and give you a check. Lots of other dealers will come to the house and others will pay for an uber to drive you home if you drive the car to them. Lots of businesses also require a paper copy of the POA. You’re making a bigger deal out of the transaction than you need to.

[Anonymous]

The other difficult part of selling an elder family members vehicle is if they have zero paperwork. My FIL didn't use the car for years so everything was expired (including his ID). Then we couldn't find the title. So if you think disposing of someone's vehicle is in your future - start gathering the paperwork now. Also a POA is not without its hiccups as different groups try and request different types of documents - including the original.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other difficult part of selling an elder family members vehicle is if they have zero paperwork. My FIL didn't use the car for years so everything was expired (including his ID). Then we couldn't find the title. So if you think disposing of someone's vehicle is in your future - start gathering the paperwork now. Also a POA is not without its hiccups as different groups try and request different types of documents - including the original.

Thank you for this. The above is good advice for anyone who might be in this position. Definitely be sure you have the paperwork. I only found the car title because I happened to clear out the desk, which I had moved to the assisted living. I could have easily thrown away all those papers jammed into the desk but figured I had better go through them one by one. Then: Bingo.

And thank you to others who had suggestions.

OP

[Anonymous]

OP, I think the reason you are getting pushback that you don't like is that so many of us have been through this, often with multiple relatives, and stuff like this is just very commonplace. This level of hassle doesn't even register for many of us. It's just part of the drill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think the reason you are getting pushback that you don't like is that so many of us have been through this, often with multiple relatives, and stuff like this is just very commonplace. This level of hassle doesn't even register for many of us. It's just part of the drill.

I am seeing a number of helpful and supportive replies. I am not seeing any pushback beyond a troll.

Venting when dealing with this is pretty normal, and I would gladly support others here who need to vent.

Take care,
OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not just sign it over to your sibling

Why? I would also like the car, and I would not sign it over to myself.

Sibling stole some items already so they do not meed more. I come from a perfect family as you can see. Haha

OP

You sound nasty. Give the sibling the car if they need it.

Ignore this troll, OP. They're just trying to rile you up.

They do sound nasty. Why not give it to the sibling?

Because the sibling is probably the nasty troll writing all of that mean stuff! 😡

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Not the OP

[Anonymous]

I still don’t see why you couldn’t give it to sibling? Maybe sibling is nasty because their own family lords their power over them? Family should spend more time helping one another than judging.